Do you ever feel like there’s not enough time in the day to get everything done?
Despite the best apps, schedule, and intentions, you find yourself in the hamster wheel of doing just “one thing” on your phone so that you can cross something off your to-do list?
Whilst technology is awesome….
It allows us to connect with anyone in the world for free, book flights + accommodation at the click of the button and keep in touch with our kids’ school work to name a few good things….
…..it can also be overwhelming.
There’s a pressure to be on, respond right away and be productive.
Add on the fact that it’s December and you feel 3 x the pressure.
Watch this week’s video on the 2 Tips For Beating Overwhelm at Work + Home
Not got time to watch the video? Read on for the transcript.
Do you find yourself overwhelmed?
…with all the work you’ve got to get done?
….with all the places that you’ve got to be at?
…..all the people you’ve got to keep happy?
If so this week’s episode is for you.
I’m Siobhan Barnes and I work with professional women who are smart intelligent and know how to get stuff done but feel called to do something different, something more meaningful and to live life along the way.
This theme of being busy, of being overwhelmed, is something that I see time and time again.
I’ll put my hand up and say it’s also something that I grapple with as well.
Because the truth is we live in a world which is hyper-connected and expects a response immediately and sometimes that can be really challenging.
There are so many things to keep tabs on.
So many groups to keep in contact with.
So many roles that we play as women.
It can be really hard and overwhelming to keep up.
So if this is you, I want to share with you two tips today that are really going to support you to move through the overwhelm.
It’s time to get out of this treadmill of always “doing” and never feeling like you’re on top of things so that you can really feel like you’re living a life and actually enjoying the journey as opposed to simply surviving.
Tip #1: Create a stop doing list.
So often we’re focused on the things that we need to be doing.
We fundamentally believe that we need to do more, be more, have more, achieve more.
I invite you to take a different approach and that is to stop doing.
There are many things that you might be doing in your own life that you actually don’t need to be doing.
When I say stop doing I don’t mean shirk from your responsibilities.
I don’t mean letting other people pick up the slack.
I don’t mean being a really selfish person.
I’m simply talking about taking an honest look at:
- Where you’re spending your time
- What activities you’re doing
- The people you’re spending time with
- How you’re using your energy
Get clear on: what’s truly serving you?
Quite often we can be on autopilot.
We don’t even realize that we’re wasting time on things that aren’t really that important.
So an example of things that you might want to stop doing may include:
- Stopping our habit of going out every Friday night as your standard night for going out and you just reduce that to once a month so that you have time to restore and rejuvenate and feel better about yourself
- Maybe you can stop putting pressure on yourself and these expectations on yourself that you must be in the office early stay really late stay later than your boss and always be working.
- Maybe you can stop beating yourself up for not spending enough time with your kids and make a commitment to figuring out how you can structure your week so that come the weekend or maybe even once a week during the workweek you get home and you have some quality time with your kids.
There is no right or wrong answer here. There’s only a right or wrong answer for you.
All of us are unique.
Have a look at what you’re doing and think about what you might want to stop.
Quite often as women, we can say yes without necessarily thinking through the ramifications and the implications. So give yourself full permission to say no to stop and take a step back.
What do you need to do to make sure you have the energy to be all the things that you are to all the people in your life.
…..and all the different hats that you wear.
What do you need to do for you to be at your best?
Maybe you need:
- to eat really well and prioritize that.
- get eight hours of sleep. Sleep is often underrated and super important but maybe you need that time and say hey 10 o’clock I’m in bed asleep.
- to journal every day.
- to exercise three times a week.
Again you do you. You know yourself best.
Think about what are the things that you need so that you can perform at your best.
Doing those two simple things will make such a big difference to the overwhelm you feel. Reminder:
Tip #1: Create a stop doing list.
Tip #2: Get clear on what you need to nurture yourself first and foremost
When you do the above, you’ll actually be prioritizing the things that matter.
Then you can be:
- More energetic
- More spacious in your diary
- More present when you are focusing on the tasks at hand
So I want to hear from you.
- What sorts of things are you excited about?
- Are you interested in the stop doing list or are you more interested to start with the things that are going to nurture you and what you need to fill up your cup?
Leave a comment for me below.
Feel free to share this with any friends that you have who might also be juggling with overwhelm and have a million things on their to-do list.
Let’s beat this together and stop the crazy making and the hamster wheel of always being on the go.
Sending so much love.