Is there someone in your life that you’re jealous of?
Maybe you’re jealous because they’ve got the perfect job, a happy relationship., their own house, perfect hair. Or maybe you don’t even know what it is, you just know that you’re just plain jealous.
Whatever it is, stop beating yourself up over it.
Jealousy is a natural human emotion and turns out it can be a good thing.
I’ll be honest, over the past year I’ve gotten to know some incredible female entrepreneurs who are achieving amazing things.
Blogging for the Huffington Post, speaking on stage, knocking sales goals out of the park, becoming go-to experts in their fields, the list goes on.
Whilst of course I’m happy for them. I must admit I have felt a twinge of jealousy from time to time.
Rather than beat myself up over not having what they have, I choose to embrace my feelings of jealously and turn it into a positive.
Here’s why I think jealousy is a good thing.
- Jealousy reveals how you can be playing bigger in your life
Sometimes we play too small and don’t even know that there are bigger aspirations lying deep within us.
Before I saw my colleagues blogging for the HuffPo and becoming known for their expertise I didn’t even realize that I too, wanted the very same thing.
When you see someone having some “thing” that makes you jealous it’s a pretty good sign that it’s something you yourself want to.
Action Step: When you find yourself feeling jealous or envious, ask yourself what it is specifically about that person that you are jealous of. Ask yourself, is that something you want for yourself?
- Jealousy shows you that what you want is possible
When you see someone achieving something you’re jealous of, it goes to show you that it is doable.
If they can do, why can’t you do it to?
If on the surface it seems easier for them to achieve their goals (perhaps you think they have more money, less risk, less obstacles to overcome) don’t underestimate what that person has had to go through to achieve their goals. Appearances can be deceiving.
Action Step: When you come across someone you’re jealous of, quietly thank them for showing you what’s possible for you too. Gratitude is a powerful thing.
- Jealousy helps you connect with A-players
When you see a person you are jealous of, you can connect with them and find out how they did it. Or you can recognize the specific thing you are jealous of and seek out mentors or experts who have achieved that very same thing and follow them.
For example, let’s say you find yourself feeling jealous of a friend who recently quit her corporate job and started her own business. You can always contact her to find out how she did it. Or find others who’ve gone through the process and succeeded. That way you’ll be getting the right advice from the people who’ve actually gone and done what it is that you also want.
Action Step: Ask the person you’re jealous of or other mentors/experts who have achieved what you want to achieve and get their advice on what you should do to achieve the same for yourself.
Now I’d love to hear from you.
- Is there someone in your life your jealous of?
- What is it that they have, that you want?
Leave a comment and let me know.
P.S. If you want to stop being jealous and achieve those bigger goals that you didn’t even know you had for yourself, check out the free training I’m hosting Friday 16th January. I’ll be sharing: How to make 2015 your best year yet and build a meaningful life and career you love. Reserve your seat >>> HERE. You’ll also get immediate access to your very own 2015 Bright Life and Career Planner when you sign up.