With the kids all officially back at school last week, I set out to the coffee shop for a morning strategy session with….myself.
Morning coffee at hand, at the cornerback table (my favorite spot!) I cracked open my to-do list….
Feeling pumped to have some time to focus and get to work, I felt the opposite….
A wave of dread washed over me.
I wasn’t expecting this! I’d been hyping up my getting back to work mode for weeks.
“How am I going to get through all this?” I thought to myself.
Pleasantly distracted by my avocado on toast, which magically arrived just at that moment, I stopped thinking about my to-do list and just focused on my peaceful leisurely breakfast….(bliss!)
Taking a moment to pause. Breathe. And just savour some alone time.
With a full belly I returned to my to-do list and with fresh eyes went through each item asking:
“What’s really important on here?”
As busy women, it can be easy to keep ongoing. After all there’s so much to DO.
Things need to get done.
We can’t lay idle by the beach all day. Or stay on our meditation pillows for hours on end.
And this I the problem I see us bumping up against time and time again….
The all or nothing mentality.
Option #1: All ACTION no REST.
Option #2: REST with no ACTION.
And let’s be honest, the second option only becomes an option when we’ve burned ourselves out to the point of exhaustion.
What if there was a way to find a happy medium?
To work without the hustle.
To know when it’s enough for the day.
To have time for the things that matter.
To work sustainably and in a way that felt good.
These are the questions I want answers to and am committed to exploring.
How about you?
If you’re curious to these questions and answers too, then listen to this week’s blog to hear the 3 steps to ending the endless hustle.
Short on time? Read on for the transcript.
With the kids being back to school for a new school year, I feel like it’s time for a fresh start. An opportunity to do things differently….
And this is the question I’m playing with for this season:
How can I live and work more sustainably and bring more meaning to my days?
As this has become my focus, I’ve been getting little hints and nudges from random places….
….a license plate on a car saying BEJOY
….a free challenge to explore being visible
….messages on Instagram that land close to home
This one by Kate Northrup being my favourite:
Your work will never be finished. Your inbox will never be empty. Your body will never be perfect. Your striving will never end. Don’t race life. Walk it.
Suuuuuuch a goodie am I right? Side note: I’m currently reading her book Do Less and it’s got some good advice in there if you want to check it out (I’m not an affiliate or anything, just a resource if you want to dive in a bit more).
So what’s the solution and alternative to actually embodying a new way of operating?
A way of operating that doesn’t involve hustle, always working hard and perpetually DOING?
I’m starting with these 3 things:
1. What’s really important?
At the end of the day what really matters to you?
For me, it’s…..my family and loved ones, my health and vitality and honouring the calling that is my work.
These things matter.
Just note that what’s important to you now, maybe different in 6 months, a year, 5 years….stake a claim right now.
Maybe your career is where you want to focus. Maybe your kids are where you want to focus.
There is no judgment, blame or shame in what your priorities are. Claim yours!
2. What activities are most important?
Knowing what your priorities are, what activities need to be prioritized and safeguarded in your schedule?
For me that looks like:
FAMILY AND LOVED ONES
- Friday night date night at home with my hubby
- Preserving weekends for time with my hubby and kids (especially Sunday night movie nights)
- Seeing my parents once a week
- Checking in with friends overseas on WhatsApp
- Girlfriend catch-ups at least once a month
- Daily journaling
- Exercise 3 times per week
- Planning our family meals for the week
- Grocery shopping twice a week
- Client sessions
- Weekly blog
- Learning and developing my skills
When I’m clear on what activities are important for me, I know that I need to prioritise them.
Do I love getting to the gym – not always.
Do I get jazzed about grocery shopping – no.
But these activities support my priorities and from this place they’re easier to do because they’re supporting what I value.
When you can trust this then you don’t need willpower – you just appreciate that it’s aligned and you GO.
For people working in stressful jobs…you may be thinking, but my days are filled with boring meetings and work that doesn’t matter. I hear you. Maybe there’s something you can do about that (more in step 3) BUT appreciate that your job is supporting a priority for you which is like to be financially independent, pay the bills, pay the mortgage for your home etc. It’s all serving a purpose!
If it’s way out of line then, let’s talk. I can help you with this!
3. How am I really spending my time? And what changes do I need to make?
When you’re clear on step 1 and step 2 then you can look at the reality of how you’re spending your time.
If your diary is filled with other people’s agenda’s then maybe it’s time to put some of your priorities in there.
What do you need to add?
For example exercise, time for your kids, time for your relationships, etc.
What do you need to take out?
For example time with toxic people, projects that aren’t aligned/you aren’t committed to, obligations that are there from waaaay back.
We don’t often look at what’s needed to be taken out…and are really good at adding stuff onto our plates so take the time to see what can be taken away.
So there you have it 3 things to consider about how to live and work more sustainably.
- What’s really important?
- What activities are most important?
- How am I really spending my time? And what changes do I need to make?
Now I want to hear from you:
- What’s your relationship like to your to-do list?
- What are your priorities right now in your life?
Leave a comment for me below.
If you’re reading/listening to this and thinking…
I need to do a big 360 and get my entire life together.
Then I’d love to invite you to the Soul Aligned Woman program. This a 3-month program with me to uncover what’s working and what’s not, so that you can realign your life to what really matters and be the woman, doing the work you came here to do.
If this sparks your interest…
You can schedule a discovery call with me HERE and I’ll send you all the details.
Wishing you a beautiful week.
P.S. If you need personal support in this, I’m opening up 2 more spots this month in my 1:1 Soul Aligned Woman Program. You apply for more information + schedule your call to explore it with me HERE.