In the past week, there’s been some big news in the media with two big name celebrities committing suicide. Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain.
These are events so tragic and they’re really upsetting.
It got me thinking about our expectations that we put on ourselves.
I believe we have a tendency to believe that the negative emotions that we feel: (sadness, grief, pain, anxiety, doubt and fear) are “bad” things.
We then beat ourselves up because we’re not feeling or achieving like our seemingly perfect friends, family and colleagues are showing us on Facebook and Instagram.
The truth of the matter is, those darker emotions that we feel aren’t really “bad” they’re simply part of the human experience.
Side note: Obviously in the case of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, something more serious was going on where they eventually did take their own lives.
What I’m talking about today is how to manage the day to day emotions that come with life.
The truth is:
Shit is going to come our way.
Everything isn’t going to be perfect.
There are going to be days when we don’t feel so good.
And that’s to be expected. We will feel the way we feel and that’s OK.
The pain that comes with these emotions is a part of life.
Imagine you had a broken arm….you need the pain to show you that your arm needs attention for restoration and healing. The pain isn’t “bad” granted it can be uncomfortable as hell. But the truth is, it’s simply a line of communication.
If you’re feeling like you’re in that phase of your life where things aren’t “good” actually they’re pretty “bad” first and foremost remember this:
It’s OK not to be OK.
Watch this week’s video to find out how you can liberate some of the “bad” emotions.
Short on time? Read on for the transcript.
Do you feel like you may be burning out?
Or maybe even feeling something beyond burn-out?
Perhaps feeling anxious or a little bit depressed?
If so this week’s episode is for you.
If you’re feeling like you’re in that phase of your life where things aren’t “good” actually they’re pretty “bad” I invite you to sit with that for a moment.
Just ask yourself:
“Can you let that in? Can you sit with it? What’s the experience about?”
Often what I find is that when you sit with the emotion, there’s something deeper underneath.
At the moment I’m doing further training all about feminine embodiment and it’s really interesting as we work through some of the emotions for ourselves personally there’s always a tender truth at the bottom underneath it.
Very quickly you can access it if you allow yourself to process the emotions.
Quite often what we can do is we can feel these sensations of negativity, anxiety, depression, hurt, overwhelm and we can squash them down.
We can make ourselves wrong for feeling these things.
We say…“I’m not going to deal with that, I’ll soldier on.”
That’s not necessarily a good thing.
If you’re in this state I really feel for where you’re at. At the same time, I invite you to liberate some of these feelings.
Play with some of these feelings.
Ask them what they’re trying to show you.
Here are 3 things that you can do to liberate some of that pain.
Thing #1: Journal
Write out what you’re feeling on paper. It might feel really awkward. You might not know what to say.
Some journalling prompts you can try:
I’m feeling stressed about _________.
I wish ______ was different.
I want to change ______.
It’s very cathartic. The exercise gets it all out of your head and onto paper which is great.
Thing #2: Go and move your body
This is all about changing your state (your way of being). You can do this in a more active way or passive way.
An active way would be to go for a run, do a hard gym session, or a tougher yoga class.
The more passive approach is to simply go for a walk in nature. To simply “be.” Enjoy. Notice that bird singing over there in the distance, notice the river flowing elegantly, look at that budding flower. REally appreciate nature.
It really helps you re-calibrate and re-centre and feel a sense of calm. Which is fabulous for the Automatic Nervous System (ANS) and restores you back to wholeness.
Thing #3: Talk to somebody about your feelings
Get help. Seek support. It can be a friend, a mentor, a coach. Whatever you feel comofortable with. Don’t keep this alone inside of you. Liberate it. Talk about it. Express it.
Those are the 3 ways that you can start to liberate some of those negative emotions that you’re feeling.
Remember you’re not alone.
It’s part of the human experience to go through the downs and the ups.
Leave a comment for me below:
- Which of the 3 things are you going to try?
- Journal, exercise, reach out to a friend?
I would love to know.
In the mean-time, have a beautiful week!