In many of my recent client sessions these past few months, there’s been an underlying theme of stress and anxiety with the state of the world…
Particularly here in Hong Kong.
When things are unstable in our local and personal world, it can have us questioning our safety, stability and sense of belonging. Naturally fear inducing circumstances….
Coupled with the everyday stress of work, relationships and health, it can all feel too much sometimes.
The conversations I’ve been having recently with my clients, friends and colleagues has got me thinking about the expectations that we put on ourselves.
We have a tendency to feel like the negative emotions that we feel: (sadness, grief, pain, anxiety, doubt and fear) are “bad” things.
We can shame ourselves for feeling this way when we’ve already got it better than other people.
We then beat ourselves up because we’re not feeling the “good” emotions of happiness, joy, abundance, bliss, or whatever word you associate with being “good.”
…or we don’t have the right to feel the way we feel.
The truth of the matter is, those darker emotions that we feel aren’t really “bad” they’re simply part of the human experience.
And we all have feelings regardless of how lucky, abundant and privileged we are.
Shaming ourselves for feeling how we feel doesn’t help and is a recipe for spiraling deeper into a hole of despair, anxiety, and fear.
In this week’s blog I talk about how to manage life and the circumstances we find ourselves in…
Everything isn’t going to be perfect in life.
There are things outside of our control.
There are going to be days when we don’t feel so good.
There are going to be days when we feel amazing.
If you’re feeling like you’re in that phase of your life where things aren’t “good” actually they’re pretty “bad” you’re not alone.
Listen to this week’s audio blog to find out.
Short on time? Read on for the transcript.
Do you feel like you may be burning out?
Or feeling something beyond burn-out?
Perhaps the upcoming holiday season is making you feel stressed out, anxious or even a little bit depressed?
If so this week’s blog post is for you.
If you’re feeling like you’re in that phase of your life where things aren’t “good” actually they’re pretty “bad” I invite you to sit with that for a moment.
Just ask yourself:
“Can you let that in? Can you sit with it? What’s what your experiencing, really about?“
Often what I find is that when you sit with the emotion, there’s something deeper underneath.
And what I find is that, very quickly you can access it the truth if you allow yourself to process the emotions. And simply FEEL what you’re feeling without judgement, shame or blame.
Quite often what we can do is we can feel these sensations of negativity, anxiety, depression, hurt, overwhelm and we can squash them down.
We can make ourselves wrong for feeling these things.
We say…“I’m not going to deal with that, I’ll soldier on.”
That’s not necessarily a good thing.
If you’re in this state I really feel for where you’re at. At the same time, I invite you to liberate some of these feelings.
Play with some of these feelings.
Ask them what they’re trying to show you.
Here are 3 things that you can do to liberate some of that pain.
Thing #1: Journal
Write out what you’re feeling on paper. It might feel really awkward. You might not know what to say.
Some journalling prompts you can try:
I’m feeling stressed about _________.
I wish ______ was different.
I want to change ______.
It’s very cathartic. The exercise gets it all out of your head and onto paper which is great.
Thing #2: Go and move your body
This is all about changing your state (your way of being). You can do this in a more active way or passive way.
An active way would be to go for a run, do a hard gym session, or a tougher yoga class.
The more passive approach is to simply go for a walk in nature. To simply “be.” Enjoy. Notice that bird singing over there in the distance, notice the river flowing elegantly, look at that budding flower. Really appreciate nature.
It really helps you re-calibrate and re-centre and feel a sense of calm. Which is fabulous for the nervous system and restores you back to wholeness.
Thing #3: Talk to somebody about your feelings
Get help. Seek support. It can be a friend, a mentor, a coach. Whatever you feel comfortable with. Don’t keep this alone inside of you. Liberate it. Talk about it. Express it.
Those are the 3 ways that you can start to liberate some of those negative emotions that you’re feeling.
Remember you’re not alone.
It’s part of the human experience to go through the downs and the ups.
Leave a comment for me below:
- Which of the 3 things are you going to try?
- Journal, exercise, reach out to a friend?
I would love to know.
In the mean-time, have a beautiful week!
P.S. Is this hitting close to home and want to send me a personal message? You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org to share what you’re stressed about and which of the 3 ways are you going to try to liberate what you’re experiencing? I’d love to know.