“What am I doing with my life?” Isn’t that the big question?
We’re supposed to have it all figured out.
We’re supposed to be happy with the careers that we have.
Yet according to a recent Gallup study, 70% of American workers are disengaged in their jobs and don’t enjoy what they’re doing.
The truth is most of us don’t know the answer to “What am I doing with my life?”
So please know that you are not alone. In fact you are part of the majority.
The thing is, nobody really talks about it. It’s shared behind closed doors with the people that you can trust.
So how do you figure it out?
Well, I believe there are many different paths you can take.
I believe you have a purpose.
For some people it’s to simply be a kind and loving person that spreads a little love and joy in the world.
For others it’s to be a pioneer like Steve jobs or Richard Branson.
One is not better than the other. They’re simply different.
The truth is we need people of shapes, sizes, types, personalities, strengths and values to pursue something meaningful and shine a light in their own unique way.
And so rather than be freaked out by the big question of “What am I doing with my life?” and beating yourself up for not having an answer.
Focus on what you can contribute. Get clear on what kind of person you want to be, TODAY.
- What do you want to contribute?
- How do you want to show up?
- How do you want to be remembered?
- How do you want to interact with people?
- What do you want to share?
- What idea do you have?
- What movement do you want to start?
- What beliefs do you have?
Start from there.
If you’re a person who’s meant to be kind and loving then your action step could be:
….to pursue activities that would allow you to nurture that beautiful kind and loving spirit of yours.
e.g. allowing yourself time to be creative, taking up projects where you’re giving back, or simply being present with your children, friends or girlfriends when you spend time with them.
It doesn’t matter what shape or action that you take– the most important thing is to simply take action and to start BE-ing it now.
Sometimes taking any action is better than over analyzing your options.
If on the flip side you want to start a company like Apple or Virgin one day and that task feels super daunting to you right now, your action step could be:
Firstly, to take the pressure off.
Secondly, to start conducting mini-experiments to figure out your idea.
e.g. if you want to start a yoga pants business you could speak to someone who’s already successful done it and ask them questions like “What does life look like?” and “What does the day-to-day-work involve?”
Just take action. This will get you out of analysis paralysis and most importantly help you build momentum.
There are no mistakes.
The most important thing is that you start experimenting now.
You can be strategic for sure but if you’re in limbo-I-feel-helpless land then I encourage you to just get started with an idea that you have. You don’ t have to quit your job, you don’t have to sacrifice your nights, just start something on the side and it’ll keep you motivated. Slow and steady is perfectly OK.
I’d love to hear from you:
What ideas do you have as to who you want to be?
What can you be pursuing to contribute to the world?
Leave a comment below.
P.S. If you’re in Hong Kong and thinking of starting a business please join myself and two other wonderful women entrepreneurs for an exciting panel discussion on the rewards and challenges of starting your own business. On Thursday 29th April, I’ll be joined by Nicole Denholder, founder and CEO of Next Chapter (a HK based crowdfunding platform) and Stephanie Poon founder of Zarie (athletic/leisure wear) and we’ll be talking about the truth of what it’s like to leave corporate and go for it on your own. You can sign up for the event HERE.