How’s your 2019 going so far?
For me personally, I’ve had a slow start. It feels like the new year officially kicked off this week…
It’s been so much fun to get back into coaching, working with clients on their career plans for 2019.
This can be a time in the year when we set some big intentions…
…Quit my job, start that business.
…Get that promotion.
…Start a passion/creative project.
And whilst these are awesome goals….
Very often unless the goal is aligned to what’s really right for you, you’ll just create more of the same things you’re trying to escape (e.g. stress, burn-out, difficult people etc).
Which is why I wanted to talk about where you need to start BEFORE you start goal planning and putting projects to paper.
I’ll admit where you need to start is a little counterintuitive but it’s freaking true.
When I left my corporate job to start my own business, I created the same reality for myself (long hours, burn out, stress) despite changing my situation….
And it wasn’t until I looked at this one thing that everything changed.
What’s the one thing?
Watch this week’s video to learn the counter intuitive first step to deciding what to do about your career in 2019.
Short on time? Read on for the transcript.
Have you tried to mix things up in your career to create a change?
- Changed roles
- Changed companies
- Changed industries
- Even started a business
And yet you find that exactly the same challenges are coming your way.
- A challenging boss
- Struggles with work-life balance. If that’s you.
If this is you, this week’s episode is for you.
I’m Siobhan Barnes and I help corporate women to align their ladders against the right wall so that they’re doing the work that they’re really here to do. And stepping into their full feminine leadership potential simply by being more of themselves.
So this is a really important topic as we’re looking at the year ahead and which direction we want to go in.
Many people are going to be thinking about making a career change.
Changing the outside circumstances that you’re in is one piece of the puzzle.
If you’re thinking about what you want to do and what’s your new direction, I really encourage you to go a little bit deeper….beyond how you can change the external circumstances.
Instead, I encourage you to look into what is it that you believe and feel about your current challenges.
I know these words “belief” and “feel” can sound a little bit fluffy and a little bit ungrounded and unscientific but they are absolutely foundational to you discerning what choice point to make.
What you believe is really important when it comes to the outcome of the desired change you’re looking for.
I’ll give you an example of this in my own personal life….
So when I left my corporate job to start my business I wanted to do work that really mattered. I wanted to have freedom and flexibility.
I knew I wanted to start a family soon so that was really on the cards and I wanted to set myself up for that.
What happened when I eventually did officially launch my business is that I recreated the same reality for myself that I had in my corporate job.
I was working late long hours.
I was really stressed and burnt out.
My diary was chock full.
I was running around like a headless chicken.
I wasn’t prioritizing exercise.
I was really stressing out.
I was operating using the same operating system and way of being that I had been used to when I was working in the corporate world.
Why was it that even though the external circumstances had changed (I got to work from my office and hang with my kids) I was still operating in the same way?
The reason why that was, was because I had a belief deeper that was running the show.
What I mean by “deeper” is my subconscious.
It was in my DNA and operating system.
If you look at it as if you’ve got your phone…
I was running this new reality (entrepreneur) in this new desired life on an old operating system right back on an Apple iPhone 3.
My fundamental belief was…
“I’m not smart enough. I’m not intelligent enough. I have to work so much harder than anybody else.”
This ran deeeeeeeeep for me.
That’s why I’ve got these quotes that “I’m enough” around my office because it’s one of the fundamental challenges that we all face when it comes to going after what it is that we want.
So I had to really look at the belief system around working and worthiness.
It wasn’t the fact that starting a business was the solution.
It wasn’t the fact that you know running a consultancy was the solution.
Really the solution was to look at that belief “that I have to work hard in order to be enough to be successful.”
That was the real work I had to do to make a shift.
When I relaxed into that I became okay with….
…..having less hours to work (because I was making a conscious choice to be there with my kids).
….not necessarily being a high growth company from the get go. Knowing that I was going to fall pregnant again and have more kids and being ok with my own pace.
So dear one, if you were listening to this, and you’re looking at making a choice point in your career and you’re looking at all the different options ahead of you and you’re wondering what is that magic solution or scenario that’s going to make me happy….
Before you do that and before you decide what that is….
Take a look and ask yourself:
What is it that you believe about work?
What is it you believe about what it means to have a career?
Because this operating system is what’s going to run the show and if you don’t make sure it’s aligned then you’ll just create more of the same.
- Do you believe you have to work to be enough?
- Do you believe that you have to work hard?
- Do you believe that you can only make money in professional professions [like being a lawyer, banker, professional services exec] in order to make money?
I would encourage you to look at your beliefs first and start to challenge some of those beliefs so that you can open up a whole window of possibilities and different opportunities that you may not even realize are there.
From this place then decide what feels right for you.
So leave a comment for me below…
Let me know when you’re looking at your choice point in your career…what is the fundamental belief that you have that is running the show?
I would absolutely love to know.
If you need some support around challenging that then send me a private message (firstname.lastname@example.org) because I’ve got an incredible tool that I’ll be sharing more about shortly in the coming videos to really support you and busting through this operating system and really rewiring yourself for a completely new way of believing and operating and achieving your soul aligned career in 2019.
Wishing you so much love and a beautiful week.