Do you ever find yourself…
…asking everybody else for their advice on what it is that you should do?
Well, I believe that you are your own best guru and it’s time to stop the self-sabotage.
Now you might find this to be a weird topic for me to be talking about….
After all my whole business is centered around working with women and helping them achieve their career goals so that they’re not just outwardly successful but deeply fulfilled on the inside too…
And by definition that involves working with someone (ahem me!) to get support.
But the truth is, my work is not about telling you what to do.
My work really is about supporting you to become your best guru, to remove the blocks that you’ve accumulated over years of conditioning, to stop the self-doubt and to stop the self-sabotage.
But here’s the thing….
You don’t have to work with me to start this process.
You can do it by yourself through one common tool that I personally use and all my clients use…
Want to learn more?
Watch this week’s video to find out how.
Short on time? Read on for the transcript.
The #1 tool that I use to meet your own inner mentor is…
Now, journaling is a really beautiful tool to help you start to shift, to see and to move into some of the more positive emotions and positive actions that are going to help you create the life that you do want.
For many people meditation can be a hard place to start. For me sometimes I find meditation quite a challenge and still have a push pull relationship with it.
But journalling is something that I find really cathartic.
It helps me connect to my heart, helps me connect to my truth and that’s what I want for you.
Personally I use my 2×3 journal.
I give to my clients to help then start to begin the journaling process.
Why is it called a 2×3 journal?
Because it includes a 3 minute exercise in the morning and a 3 minute exercise at night.
Quick, easy, and simple to get you started.
Don’t be fooled. 3 minutes in the morning, 3 minutes at night every day can be severely life changing.
It can change your life.
It is often these small daily actions that we take that create meaningful success and that’s what I want for you.
Download your copy and make sure you check out this video where I talk you through it.
So “How’s it going to work?”
Let’s dive in.
In the morning….
Step #1: Gratitude
Gratitude is everything. It’s the way that you can shift out of a negative mind funk and start to see how you’ve got a lot right.
When we start thinking about “Oh I’m not there yet. I Haven’t achieved X Y Z.” We’re in this lack mentality. We don’t have what it is that we want and our mind is just going to keep reinforcing that and playing that.
My guess is you have thoughts like:
“I don’t have enough money in the bank. I should be further along. I should be at this “level” by now.”
They’re pretty negative thoughts and the way that you can start to shift that is through gratitude.
So in the morning what you want to do is you want to list three things that you’re grateful for. Specific things. Simple things.
Instead of “I’m grateful for my health or I’m grateful for my partner” I want you to think…
“I’m grateful that my partner made me a cup of tea this morning.”
“I’m grateful that I got to sleep in really cozy sheets last night and I had a fantastic night sleep.”
“I’m grateful that I can even breathe and be able to use my legs today.”
It can really be that simple. Often we need to remind ourselves of these little things and it can help shift things and bring us back to what we’re grateful for. So that’s number one.
Step #2: Declare your one major goal or intention that you’re working towards.
Write it down in the present tense as if it’s already happened because actually your mind can’t discern between what’s in the future and what’s in the past.
If you start to visualize, see and feel what it is that you do want (as if it’s already happened) that’s going to make it really easy for you.
That’s why athletes use visualization right before we go into the Olympics. They see themself winning the race. They see themselves clearing the bar. Because that’s how your mind works.
Same with you in your career or business.
You want to see that as already happened.
So it could be something like…
“I’m so grateful to be working in a role that I love and a company that pays me well gives me the freedom to work as I please.”
“I’m grateful that I’m working with my dream clients in my business. I’m so happy to be living that dream.”
Write it down now.
Step #3: Write down three action steps that you can take to move you forwards towards your goal or intention.
This is where the rubber meets the road. Maybe you:
- need to speak to somebody about your next career steps.
- ask that friend who successfully got that promotion how did she have that strategy with her company?
This ties in with number 4…
Step #4: Get clear on who or what can help you with achieving your goal or intention.
So this is where you get super the specific on how you can make that goal happen. And that’s when you know “I should work with this person” or “I should speak to that person” or “I should read that book”
You can start to make sure that your decisions are really aligned to you because you know what your intention is. You’re not just willy nilly flowing with somebody else’s advice. No you’ve taken the time to figure out what it is that you want.
So there’s four things you going to do in the morning. Quick simple easy don’t think too much just get it out from your head through your hand and onto pen and paper symbol.
In the evening….
Step #1: Write down three amazing things that happened that day.
Again this is training your mind to look out for the good things that happen. So often we look back on our days and think “I didn’t get this done. You know I shouted at my kids or I wasn’t that patient.”
You need to train your brain to look for the positive.
We are actually hardwired to look out for the negative. So this does take a little bit of work which is why I include it in the journal.
So it can be simple like maybe you really appreciated the blue sky (I’m obsessed with blue skies) or maybe a kiss from your partner or you know an awesome hug from your kids. Write that down.
Step #2: Write down how you could have made your day better.
What could you have done to make your day better?
- Could you exercised?
- Could you have had an honest conversation?
- Could you have called your mother?
What are the things you could have done to make your day better?
That’s it. That’s what you do every day. Very very simple short sweet and simple.
So make sure you download your own copy of the 2 x 3 journal.
You can use it as a template and print off those sheets if you want to. Or what I love buy a new notebook and use that to write out what you’re grateful for.
Leave a comment for me below:
- How did it go?
- How do you feel about this?
- What’s changing for you as you start to adopt this in your life?
I would love to hear from you in the comments below.
In the mean-time, have a beautiful week!
P.S Download your own copy of the 2×3 journal HERE.