Happy April! How’s your week going?
This week I’ve been getting LinkedIn messages on my 3 year work anniversary. I can’t believe all that’s happened in the past 3 years…
Back in 2014 when I launched The Neon Life Society I was so nervous. I was so scared.
…Going all in. Being seen in a new light. Taking a risk. Truly leaving the corporate world behind. Failing. Succeeding. Starting a business. Hanging my new shingle. Really truly doing THIS.
Every fear you could think of, I had it.
As a recovering people-pleasing, introverted “good” girl I wasn’t sure if I was cut out to pursue something that I actually wanted. I mean wasn’t that a selfish and crazy thing to do?
At the time I had a 2 year old and a 6 month old had a HEAP of mother guilt added to the mix.
Yet deep down there was a seed of light …. (albeit a teeny-tiny seed).
This seed was the courage and connection to doing this work and pursuing something that I felt I had a heart and calling for.
And it was enough to write my first blog post despite all of my fears and doubts.
150 blog posts later (plus another baby in the mix) I’ve learned a lot….I’ve made a heap of mistakes and learned some pretty amazing lessons that I want to share with you.
Lessons I’ve learned on what happens when you strike out and pursue a calling that doesn’t make rational sense. One that feels like starting from scratch all over again again. One that feels extremely vulnerable and risky.
Do you have a seed of light inside you calling you to something bigger? Are you feeling overwhelmed, stressed or quite frankly terrified of following that seed?
If so, this week’s blog post is for you.
Whether your seed of inspiration is clear or simply a “knowing” that you’re on the wrong path…you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.
Here are my top X lessons on the journey of pursuing your career calling in spite of your fears.
Lesson #1: That seed of inspiration is there for a reason. Trust it.
I believe that the reason we’re here is to be who we really are, to experience life to the fullest and make a contribution to the world in our own unique way — in the way that only we can.
We all have special and different gifts and talents…which by default makes none of us special.
I believe that your career is the most obvious vehicle through which you are here to express who you are. And if you spend most of your waking hours at work then you might as well make them count towards something that inspires you – and others.
If you have a seed of inspiration on what you want to do or who you want to be…then trust it. I believe it’s there for a reason. Your job is to explore it and understand it.
Lesson #2: Before you get sucked into strategies and tactics (aka the “doing”) you’ve got to align to your highest path and purpose.
Let’s be honest. You can find tools, strategies and resources for everything online these days. A lot of it for free too.
But these tactics and tools are useless if they’re not aligned to what’s right for you.
When I first started out in my business I allowed other “experts” to guide me on what direction to take my business. I admired their success and trusted their approach and gave away my power in terms of the core of what I was about.
In doing that I diluted my message, created offerings that didn’t light me up. Because I was misaligned to what my business was all about, my energy was off and my audience and clients could feel it…so I stalled in my business.
Whenever I connect back to the real reason I do my work and what I’m here to do, who I’m here to serve I always come back home.
Lesson #3: Starting before you’re ready is the way forward.
Like my audience I’m a bit of a planner and strategic thinker – I like to unpack things to the nth degree but sometimes you’ve just got to freaking start.
The truth is, you won’t know something until you go out there and talk to people, put something out there and give things a go.
Tweaking and refining with your best foot forward beats perfection every time.
My audience is my younger self and whilst I have a good grip on what a corporate woman who’s not in a job that lights here up feels – I still couldn’t have created my offerings and found my voice without talking to more women to see what they’re going for.
Lesson #4: Your story and experience is part of your purpose.
I’m not a person that loves to talk about myself but I can’t tell you how many people have said thank you for sharing my story because that’s what they’ve gone through themselves.
Your story and your experience are what heal others and are a part of who you are and what you’re here to do.
Lesson #5: The money always comes when you’re intentional, committed and aligned to what you’re putting out there.
I’ll be 100% honest…there are have been many quiet periods in my business…some of them relating to maternity leave…others to do with when I’ve allowed myself to stew in uncertainty, doubt and fear.
The more you can commit to a practice of staying intentional, committed and aligned – the more the money will flow and momentum will build. The stop-start cycle can be exhausting.
Which leads me onto the next lesson..
Lesson #6: Having a “crew” who get you and have your back is essential
Whether you gather a bunch of friends together, hire a coach, enroll in a mastermind…you’ve got to surround yourself with people who are there to support you on your journey. When you’re striking out on your own pursuing a different career or starting a new business it can be lonely and doubt has a nasty habit of creeping in really quickly.
Taking the time to foster relationships and build a community that supports you not only helps you keep the momentum going but also makes the journey SO much sweeter.
Lesson #7: The more real you allow yourself to become, the more you’ll meet people who get you.
When I was working in corporate I had no idea about this wonderful world of coaching and online entrepreneurship that I know now.
Whilst I’ve been blessed to have wonderful friends from school, university and work…I’ve continued to meet like minded friends at a deep soul level in the work that I do.
It’s been so rewarding and enriched who I am as a person too.
Lesson #8: Sometimes going slow and steady beats fast and furious
I’m a go, go, go kinda person. I want things done yesterday. And I want to be further along on my journey.
This thinking has set me back and caused me way more anxiety and frustration than I like to admit.
It’s been 3 years of my business and if I had my time again I would definitely do things differently. Slower. Deliberate. Relaxed. Spacious.
Honestly…what’s the rush anyway?
Lesson #9: Having a spiritual practice is the key to maintaining clarity
Only in the past 18 months have I become more spiritual. Maybe it’s age. Maybe it’s my stage of life. Maybe it’s an awakening that many of us have been feeling at this time….
For me it’s been essential to connect to something greater than myself. It bring me back home to the work and contribution I’m here to make.
Lesson #10: You get to make up the rules on how you want to “do” your life and career
Ultimately how you choose to go about your life and career is up to you. There may be gurus telling you there is a certain way to do things but the most important thing is that you stay true to who you are and how you want your life to look.
You are the best person to make this decision. Any guide, coach, mentor or counsellor will help you figure out the best path for you based on your desires.
So there you have it…my top 10 lessons from 3 years in business and blogging.
Which has been the most important lesson for you to hear for where you’re at in your journey?
I’d love to hear from you and know. Leave a comment below!
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