It’s the last day of February. How did that happen?
This time of year usually brings about promotion announcements and bonus confirmations.
The women I speak to are usually either:
A. Super happy and proud of what they’ve achieved and focusing on the next goal or
B. Frustrated as hell that they weren’t recognized for their efforts and contributions.
I’ll be honest, most land in Camp B and so naturally it can be a time to question whether it’s time to stay or leave to do something else.
But how do you decide what your next step is?.
Naturally, questions come up:
- Am I over-reacting?
- Doesn’t everyone suck up their jobs to a certain degree?
- What would starting over doing something else actually mean?
- Am I too old to figure out what else I could do?
And so another year passes and you’re back at square 1….only a little more stressed and weathered from the daily grind.
So what do you do if you need to decide whether to stay or go?
I’m a big believer in listening to the voice that’s calling you to honour what’s going on and then getting your strategic mind on board to figure out a solution.
Curious to hear more?
Watch this week’s video to figure out how to balance your head and heart to make a decision around your next career move.
Short on time? Read on for the transcript.
Have you got a particular choice point to make in your career?
Maybe you have to make a decision around whether you going to stay or whether you’re going to go from your current job.
Or maybe you have another choice to make around a personal situation, a significant other or your health.
If so this week’s episode is for you.
I’m Siobhan Barnes and I support corporate women to realign their ladders against the right wall so that they can do meaningful work that they love and live a life with my heart and soul.
When I was working in the corporate world I got offered an opportunity to move companies and to move in-house doing similar work but at a different organisation and more regional work in Asia.
Which was exciting at the time, for a then 26 year old.
I was also working with my boyfriend (now husband) at the time and so I was looking for a change anyway.
I was looking for something new and this opportunity presented itself.
In my head, logically it made sense to take the job.
It was a great move on paper.
I would be earning more money.
I would be traveling regionally.
I would have the opportunity to deal with high-level people within the organization.
I’d be working at a very reputable company (an investment bank).
It would have been a great learning opportunity for me to really step up into this leadership role.
Whilst it made sense in my head in my heart, in my body there were hesitations, reservations that just didn’t quite feel right and yet I ignored them.
I just pushed them down and reasoned…
“I should be so lucky to get this opportunity. I should go for it and make the most of it.”
And that’s what I did. I just went with it.
Unfortunately my career there was a short-lived experience.
I only lasted 18 months.
Whilst the job in the company was awesome. It just wasn’t the right fit for me
What I learned from that experience was the power of the knowledge of your body, your intuition because it’s always going to guide you and tell you what direction you’re supposed to be going in.
The sad truth is….we live in a society that prioritizes the rational the practical as opposed to honoring the heart and the feelings and the intuition.
If you’re going through a choice point in your life right now…
I’d love for you to consider where do you sit on that scale of priority when it comes to making a decision.
Are you logical?
Do you make the pros and cons list and really approach things from a linear perspective or are you
Somebody who trusts their intuition and listens to their body by feeling into things?
Where do you sit?
Neither is right or wrong.
Everybody has a natural preference.
Today I just really want to encourage you to see how you can bring a bit of both to your decision-making process.
For most of us, I’m guessing if you’re anything like me we’ll sit more on that spectrum of head first (practical + linear) and then heart second. The latter of which we and choose to squash down.
I’m a big believer that actually we’ve got to go into the heart, the intuition, the body FIRST before getting the head on board and thinking strategically about what the next steps are.
Because ultimately at the end of the day we’re chasing a feeling that we think our goals are going to give us.
Whether that be the promotion, working for that startup, standing up to your boss.
These things are not to the end goal.
We go for these goals because we believe that they’re the vehicle to feeling a certain thing.
And that’s ultimately what you want right?
If you get that promotion you might feel really proud or accomplished.
You might feel respected if you work for that startup. You might find a sense of freedom or innovation or being a part of something.
If you stand up to your boss you might feel strong or powerful.
Ultimately it’s the feeling that we’re looking for.
So if you’ve got a decision that you are contemplating, I invite you to instead of just doing the to do list and doing your pros and cons I invite you to actually close your eyes and bring to mind the opportunity that is presented to you.
You can see the two options that are there and I invite you to feel into what your body’s responses to the two.
Let’s just say for example you’ve got an opportunity to explore whether you staying versus go from your current job.
Maybe you’re in a similar situation so I was, where an opportunity presented itself.
Feel each of the opportunities in front of you.
Notice or sense what you feel in your body.
Do you get a sense of what is right and what is wrong.
Have a play with it and let me know in the comments below.
When you’re able to start to discern the the sensations in your body and increase your sensitivity that’s when you’re able to get the answers to your biggest questions and actually allow your body to take the lead.
When you can let the body lead then you can get the rational mind on board.
As Albert Einstein famously said:
“You can’t solve a problem at the same level of consciousness that created it.”
So you might as well try and change your consciousness by feeling in the body first.
I hope this help was helpful this week and I would love to hear from you in the comments below.
Where do you sit on that spectrum when it comes to decision making. Heart first head second or head first?
- Leave a comment below.
If you want to share your challenge leave it in the comments below too, I would love to support you there.
Remember there’s no one in the world who can do what you do the way you do it. So keep going after your soul aligned goals sending so much love.
P.S. If you’re not sure about your next career move and need some support to decide whether you should stay or go, I’ve got a juicy new way to support you in getting the clarity you need. Check out all the details over HERE..