We’re living in urgent times.
From the protests here in Hong Kong to the bushfires in Australia to Brexit in the UK to the politics of the U.S (plus a whole list of other countries I haven’t mentioned but are equally as important).
When the world is full of so much strife, unrest, and destruction, we can naturally find ourselves feeling helpless and unsure of how to actually make a difference.
As someone born and raised in Hong Kong, I find myself on a roller coaster of emotions with what’s unfolding in my hometown. For anyone who lives or has lived in Hong Kong, you may relate.
In one moment I’ll be laughing with my kids and so present with them and in the next moment, I’m spontaneously in tears feeling despair about the pain in our society.
I don’t have the answers to how to repair Hong Kong let alone the other problems we have in our world. But what I DO know, is that the best chance for us to collectively find the answers and begin the path to healing is to start with bringing back the “human” in humanity – and to relate to each other as human beings.
Being human we have emotions. And not all of them are pretty.
It’s a tall order to be humane and compassionate when we’re feeling unexpressed anger, rage, grief, sadness, and despair.
These past few months, I’ve been asking myself the question:
“What can I do?”
The best answer that I’ve come up with is to share and use the embodiment tools I’ve learned, to support people in processing their experience of what’s happening and unraveling in their respective societies and different corners of the world….
So that you can liberate those pockets of frozen tension and find personal peace.
Because it’s from THIS space we have the capacity to choose how to show up in this current environment and offer our humanity to a hurting society.
For all the Hong Kong people reading this, on Tuesday 26th November at 7:45 pm Hong Kong Time I’ll be hosting a free “SPACE TO BE” online workshop so that you have a safe space to feel, express and liberate what you’re experiencing (no matter what your political views). This is a space to simply feel not debate. You can sign up HERE.
If you’re feeling anxiety, despair, anger or helplessness about the world, you’re in the right place. In this week’s blog where I share a simple process that will help you unravel what you’re experiencing in your body, find personal peace and from this space make choices on how to show up in the world.
What’s happening in our world has an impact on us in our nervous systems, we feel deeply.
If you’re anything like the people that I tend to attract, my guess is that you’re more sensitive than the norm, you feel more deeply, you’re empathetic.
In a world where there is so much pain and hurt, it can feel like it’s all too much.
What can happen is that we can:
Armour up to the world: shutting down, not reading the news, not wanting to partake in the world.
Numbing: reading about what’s happening but letting it wash over us without emotion because if we feel, it can wipe us out.
Today what I want to talk about is a healthier way of being in the world but not of the world.
What do I mean by that?
Well using my example…
I mean to be able to read the news and not collapse and to still be able to function and live your life and make the contributions that you can (voting, donating money to causes believe in) and also to enjoy life as well.
Personally I’ve been grappling with this, how can I be enjoying and living my life, when there are protestors on the streets and there is so much pain happening. It feels selfish and insensitive.
I’m not going to debate what’s right and wrong here in this blog post. There are space and place to debate politics.
My guess is that you’ve got those in WhatsApp groups, facebook groups, and communities you’re a part of.
You might find that in these groups…people start to attack each other personally rather than debate.
The truth is when we’re looking at politics and society, what’s subconsciously is happening, we are assessing each other on their values.
For example, if person A support this camp, they value X. And you support another can and value Y.
Because you’re different, that makes them the opposite side – and in some cases the enemy. Which is where we can sometimes see this anger, violence and dehumanizing going on.
I don’t think that this is serving anyone.
I think we need to feel what we’re feeling so that we’re not unloading our emotions onto others and we can process our emotions in our body so that we can come to a clear space to then have a constructive dialogue or come up with some solutions for what’s within your power to make a difference.
Big or small.
Sometimes we can berate ourselves for not making a bigger contribution.
Today my small contribution is to share what I can with you – I’m not out there on the streets on a street box.
My hope is that it serves you.
So what I want to do right now is to guide you through a bit of a process to feel what you’re experiencing in your body, find personal peace and from this space make choices on how to show up in the world.
If you can, I recommend listening to the audio as it’ll be more impactful which you can do here:
But if you just want the gist first here it is:
Step 1: Close down your eyes and get honest with how you’re feeling
Check-in with how you are really feeling in this moment.
For me, I have this sense of heartache and heartbreak in my chest. I can go about my life, being with my kids, reading them a story but the heartache is still there.
What is it that you’re feeling? If you want to you can name it out loud.
Step 2: Notice where you feel in your body?
Without getting into the story of what you’re feeling, bring your awareness into the part of the body that feels that.
I feel heartache/heartbreak and I feel that in my chest. It feels like a weight on my chest. It feels like constriction like it’s hard to breathe. Tears come quite quickly and naturally…
Drop the “should you be feeling it, why are you feeling it, what set you off” none of that matters. Just simply feel
Step 3: Let yourself feel what you’re feeling
Unravel. You may feel like crying, shouting, punching a pillow. Stay close to the feeling. Moving as the feeling.
This can feel really weird but the trick is to just feel the feels. Let it move through me.
What it looks like is me rolling my shoulders, sighing out using my sound and breath and keeping my awareness on the feeling of heartache.
In all honesty, it might feel foreign or on the flips side a welcome release. What’ll happen is that you’ll start to feel. It’ll take as long or as little as you like.
Keep feeling. Roll with the sensations and the emotions. You simply let it move through you.
This is a natural response if you look at animals in the wild, where the lion is going after the gazelle and the gazelle makes the narrow escape. You’ll see the gazelle physically shake after that experience. You’ll see them complete shake it off.
As humans, we don’t do that. We hold it in, keep it together, numb, armour. Don’t show too much. Especially for women “don’t get to emotional now”
In this space, just let yourself complete a very natural and normal response.
Because the truth is when you look at the world it can feel very unsafe right now. It does get your hackles up. It does make you feel anxious. Your body needs to complete that cycle so that it can move on.
If you need more time with this, take your own time to do this.
When you let this complete you’ll come to a place of reprieve, neutrality or pleasure. There is no right or wrong answer, you just want to find yourself in that new state.
Step 4: Ask your body what to do next
Ask yourself: “What do I have to know here? What is it that I have to do?”
Maybe you want to donate money, offer some compassion and humanity in a group or voice your opinions more publicly.
When you do this, you’re taking action from a clear space.
Equally, your body might not tell you to take some big action. It may simply tell you to go and take a nap, to spend some time with your kids, to do something for you.
And all of that is OK. There is no judgment here.
This is a self-regulating practice. So that you are taking personal responsibility for yourself. Finding personal peace within yourself so then you can choose how you show up in the world.
My hope for you is that you take the time to do this.
Give it a try, notice how it feels and how it makes a difference for you.
This is a simple embodiment process I’ve shared.
For all the Hong Kong people reading this, on Tuesday 26th November at 7:45pm Hong Kong Time I’ll be hosting a free “SPACE TO BE” online workshop so that you have a safe space to feel, express and liberate what you’re experiencing (no matter what your political views). This is a space to simply feel not debate. You can sign up HERE.
If the event has passed or if you’re in another part of the world, if you have any questions or are not sure of something, please leave a comment for me on the blog below or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I want you to know that you’re not alone in this.
Feeling what you’re experiencing can seem scary and unknown.
But it truly is the path to clearing your energy, coming to your space that is sovereign and powerful within yourself to then choose how to show up.
I believe that when we do this work, we have a greater capacity to offer our compassion, humanity and come up with creative solutions.
Albert Einstein famously said, “ we can’t solve a problem at the same level of consciousness that created it.”
This process is one of the ways that you can change your consciousness around what’s happening and come up with a solution – big or small, personal or collectively. All of it matters.
I hope that this has served you.
Leave a comment below and how that experience was for you.
Sending you so much love and peace.