You’re a super busy woman with a million and one things to do and often what you need and want to do come at the bottom of the list.
So how do you reclaim some “you” time to do things that you enjoy and like so that you can actually live a little and enjoy what little downtime you have?
First things first, you have to build in “you” time activity into your day every day.
Yep. Everyday. It’s not indulgent or crazy. You need to look after yourself or you are going to burn out and start resenting those around you. So make sure you keep yourself in check before you start crying for no reason or banging your fists against the wall.
You time doesn’t have to take up a lot of time or be super indulgent (although I highly encourage that you do spoil yourself once in a while).
Perhaps on a busy workday it could be simply taking 10 minute out of your day for a coffee break. Or spending 10-minute journaling at the end of the day. Perhaps it’s something more extravagant like a foot massage or drinks with girlfriends. Whatever nourishes you and energises you, schedule it into your diary.
Learn to Say “No.”
This one is a biggie and super important. If you’re already good at saying no and have strong boundaries when it comes to others asking you for your time then that is awesome. Go you! But if you’re anything like I was in my corporate job (read: serial people pleaser) then this is a muscle that you’ll need to build up.
Sometimes we can take on more than we can chew because we don’t want to let someone down. Especially in corporate jobs we can feel like we don’t have the option to say no. But it’s super important to be real about your time and what you can realistically achieve in a day WITHOUT working late, skipping that yoga class or dinner with friends. The truth is whilst these social activities seem like negotiables, they’re not. They’re essential to your well-being. To be a top performer you need to have this down time so please don’t give it up so easily.
If you’re not confident saying no then at least give yourself the breathing room to assess whether you can realistically meet someone’s request and just say “I’d love to but let me check my diary first and let you know.”
Lovingly share with them that you want to help / attend / be there / work on, you fill in the blank and that you’ll get back to them after checking their diary.
What do you do to build more you time into your schedule? I’ve love to hear from you in the comments below.