I’ve been having so much fun delivering the first week’s module of Escape The Corporate Grind. Start Your Own Business. group program.
This week we’ve been focusing on mindset.
I use the word successful in inverted commas because my definition of success is not about money, your title, whether you own your house or not.
I define it a little differently.
Success is the dual process of striving to achieve your own personal goals that stretch and challenge you and also appreciating the small milestones along the way. So that ultimately you feel happy, fulfilled and on-purpose by the personal choices you make and feel proud of the way you are showing up in the world as conscious human being.
Your personal goals may involve material things like money, a house or a Kate Spade handbag or be more about helping people and giving more back to society.
It’s completely up to you.
The Neon Life Society is about you defining success for yourself and dropping anyjudgment around what your personal goals are.
I honestly believe no one can tell you what goals to strive for because it’s your life. And you get to make up your own personal definition of success. There is no good or bad. Just right for you.
In order to find success you’ve got to start with mindset.
Mastering your mindset requires ongoing training.
Much like exercise you can’t expect to go to the gym for 6 months and reach your ideal weight and then expect to maintain the same levels of fitness, weight and tone when you suddenly stop and give up.
You’ve got to keep practicing and training your mind in order to stay in peak condition.
You need to practice taming that nasty negative inner critic that can stop you from making choices that allow you to feel proud of the way you are showing up in the world and making a contribution to society by doing the work that you were born to do.
That nasty negative inner critic loves to run the show.
That inner voice will jump on any opportunity to tell you things that keep you playing small, playing safe and stuck in a job that doesn’t fulfill you beyond your pay cheque and title.
If you don’t notice your inner critic and disassociate from it, it can be easy to assume that it’s the real you talking.
The inner critic loves to tell you things like:
- I don’t know what I’m doing
- I’m a fraud
- I’m not sure I’m worth it
- I don’t have what it takes to do what I really really want
If you’re reading this post, chances are you’re not 100% happy with the way things are going in your career.
Step 1: Identify what your dream life and career looks like
When you think about living your dream life what do you see?
Some people really struggle with this step because we’ve been so conditioned to focus on what we don’t have. So when we are asked to focus on what we do want, we have to stop and think about it.
Imagine winning the lottery: how would you spend your days once the novelty wore off and you wanted to do something with your time?
Step 2: What does your inner critic say to you when you think about going after your dream life and career from Step 1?
By starting to notice that nasty inner critic you’ll be able to stop her barrage of negative comments before they get the better of you.
Yes, some concerns of hers may be valid but let’s not let her get too carried away, shall we?
What does your inner critic say?
Step 3: Counter argue what your inner critic is telling you with examples of how she’s wrong.
I used to believe things were very black and white. There was right choice and a wrong choice. Good and bad.
But now I can see that life isn’t so simple. There are many shades of grey.
When your inner critic tells you those nasty negative beliefs, can you counter argue with her and see how there are shades of grey in her argument and that she could in fact be wrong?
For example, when you think about escaping the corporate grind and starting your own business perhaps your inner critic says that you don’t have the experience to start something up on your own.
You can counter argue and say that:
As with everything you’ve managed to achieve in your career, you’ve been able to create success without the all of the necessary experience. And that starting a business will be no different.
Have a go and share with me in the comments below:
- What does your inner critic love to tell you on a daily basis?
- How can you prove that she’s not always right?
I’d love to hear from you.
P.S. There’s still an opportunity to enroll in Escape The Corporate Grind. Start Your Own Business. If you need some support to master your mindset AND follow a formula for figuring out what business to start so that you can support your lifestyle goals, then I invite you to check out the program HERE before I close the doors for enrollment.