Last week I went out for dinner with one of my best friends from high school. We’re mums who both have kids aged 1 and 3 and I treasure our precious mummy only get-togethers.
After dinner and some late night shopping, we were thinking of calling it a night when my friend’s husband texted to suggest we go for a foot massage.
Side note: I live in Hong Kong where foot massage establishments are a-plenty even at 10pm at night.
So we decided to pamper ourselves and prolong our evening.
As soon as we sat down in our comfy seats we breathed a deep breath and appreciated how great it felt to pamper ourselves and not have to rush back to make sure everything was alright at home.
After that night I felt energised, motivated and completely taken care of. I was able to be even more present with my kids, husband and clients. Plus it sparked my creativity and I came up with a new offer (The Career Ignition Power Intensive) to help time-starved high-achieving women figure out the next step in their career.
It got me thinking about how little we prioritise ourselves. And how little we value it.
Too often we put ourselves at the bottom of the to-do list.
- We sacrifice gym sessions to make an early morning meetings.
- We say yes to a drinks or dinner with friends even though our bodies are craving a night in.
- We don’t spend money on massages, nice clothes, shoes (or whatever you really love) because we feel we should save the money for a rainy day.
Whilst I’m all for being practical and sensible, you’ve also got to enjoy life and look after yourself. If you can’t then no-one else will.
If you’re completely empty and depleted then what have you got left to give?
Here are 3 steps to start prioritising yourself so that you can live an even more fulfilling life.
1. Commit to doing one thing that fulfills YOU every single day
It doesn’t have to be huge. Maybe its:
- Drinking a green juicy in the morning
- Starting your day with 10 minutes of meditation or journaling
- Getting to the office 15 minutes early so you can plan your day without interruptions
2. Plan a bigger fun thing to look forward to at least once a month
Whilst it’s important to build in something fun into your everyday life, it’s not realistic to expect everyday to be packed with out-there amazing experiences.
But once a month? That’s totally doable.
Brainstorm 11 fun things you can look forward to once a month for the rest of the year.
For me, I booked a calligraphy class that I’m going to tomorrow. I set it up at the beginning of January as one of my creative goals from my 2015 Bright Life and Career Planner. I’ve been looking forward to the class all month and I every time I think about the class I feel like a little kid again.
3. Say no to something you don’t want to do
Sounds simple, right?
But I’m guessing there’s somewhere in your life that you’re saying yes when you really mean no.
When you’re prioritising yourself, you need to get comfortable with setting boundaries. Saying “no” is a big part of that.
- You don’t want more responsibility at work
- You don’t want to go to an event
- You would prefer to work somewhere else instead of the take the promotion you’ve been offered
Start with what feels comfortable to you.
Once you start prioritising yourself, your life and career will become a whole lot more fulfilling and you can start to make the right decisions on where you’re going next.
It’s a journey so have fun with the process.
Now I’d love to hear from you: What’s the first step you’re going to take to start prioritising yourself?
Leave a comment below.
Have a great weekend.