Do you find yourself comparing yourself to others?
Maybe peers, neighbours, friends.
Do you say to yourself that you should be further along by now?
That you should have what they have by now? That what you’re doing is not good enough?
If so, this week’s video blog is for you.
I’ll be honest, this is something that I have and continue to struggle with because I want to push myself to be better.
It can be very natural to look at other people and think “Oh Gosh! They’re further ahead than me.”
This is a perfectly human thing to do.
We’re hardwired to be in tribes.
We’re hardwired to be in groups.
We’re hardwired to keep up with the collective.
It can be a really good thing if you look at it positively and frame it positively.
As Jim Rohn said “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”
If the 5 people you spend the most time with are achievers, creating amazing lives for themselves, doing really well in their careers and businesses, then that can elevate you because you are a part of that collective group energy.
But the trap is, if you find yourself talking to yourself negatively and beating yourself up over not being further ahead and needing to do X, Y, Z in order to be “good enough”….that’s a very dangerous slope….
Watch this week’s video blog to learn what these two things are and how you can apply these in your own life and career.
Short on time? Read on for the transcript.
Know that we are all on our own path. With different lessons to learn. With different obstacles and challenges to overcome.
What we see on the outside and what we see other people having isn’t necessarily a reflection of the truth.
You might see a colleague who’s doing really well and has got that promotion and you think “wow they’ve got it made” but you don’t see them crying themselves to sleep at night because they’re really stressed out over anxious over tomorrow’s meeting.
We don’t know what goes on behind closed doors.
Rather than judge other people including ourselves (and being harsh towards ourselves)…I encourage you to take this message and bring it back to you.
Focus on what’s in front of you right now.
If you want that promotion what do YOU need to do?
Do you need to:
- Learn something
- Speak to people
- Get feedback
- Fix your mindset and build your confidence muscles?
If you want to start a business what is it that you need to do to get there?
Start asking more empowering questions and focusing on the microsteps that are in front of you rather than the 6 month or the 12 month plan.
Focus on what’s ahead of you.
There’s only 2 more months left of 2017 so why not just focus on how you can close out strong? And make the most of it? So you can hit the ground running in 2018?
Don’t compare yourself to others.
Appreciate that you are on your own journey.
Stay in your own lane.
If you yourself want to…
- Be confident in yourself
- Stop the negative self talk and self doubt
- Take action towards your career goals
Then hit reply to snag one of the limited Rapid Transformational sessions I have available this month so that you can stop the self sabotage and start doing.
You can do whatever you put your mind to.
There is no one in the world that can do what you do the way you do it.
Have a beautiful week.