Can I be honest with you?
Before I hit “publish” on my blog post last week, I was verrryyy apprehensive about sharing the honest truth about what’s been going on behind the scenes in my business. (Side note: If you missed that post you can check it out HERE).
Being vulnerable and honest with yourself is one thing.
But sharing it publicly is quuuuuite another (especially for an introvert!)
In case you missed the post here’s the gist: quietly behind the scenes (for 3.5 years) I’ve been navigating my heart callings towards all things woo, spiritual and body-mind-soul aligned.
The whole time I’ve been called to explore the intangible, energetic and alternative…my mind has been on overdrive…
….why are you wasting your time exploring this stuff? Just focus on what you’re doing.
….are you really going to use these tools with your clients? It’s not grounded in science, is it?
…..you want to feel your emotions? Lady, we’ve got more important things to do. Get.to.work.
But then I came across Albert Einstein’s quote:
“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honours the servant but has forgotten the gift.”
This quote gave myself permission to trust where my intuition was guiding me and let my rational mind take the back seat.
After all if Albert Einstein believed this was OK, I couldn’t be that silly to listen to my callings, could I?
So many of the women I work with have a connection to their intuition, an inner knowing that’s telling them “something’s” not right….
But they shut it down because they’re rational mind tightens its grip before that inner knowing has had a chance to fully bubble up to the surface…
Before you know it the next item on the to-do list is commanding attention (or their screaming child).
As busy women, we need to get shit done. Listening to our intuition can seem very pie in the sky and wishful thinking….plus where is it going to lead you? The unknown and uncertainty can be daunting as hell.
So naturally we squash that intuitive knowing down along with how we’re really feeling.
This looks like…
….being passed over for a promotion when you’ve been doing all the things in your personal development plan. You feel pissed and feel this isn’t right (intuition) but then instead of speaking up, you doubt yourself and work extra hard to prove your “enough” (rational mind)
….instinctively saying “no” to dinner with a friend after work because you’re default is primary caretaker tucking the kids into bed. You know time out for you as a woman is important (intuition) but feel guilty because shouldn’t you want to stay home with your kids you barely see anyway (rational mind)?
….doing 3 people’s jobs because of cost cuts and downsizing. You’re burning out and know that this isn’t sustainable (intuition) but you rationalise that you should be grateful for making the cut to even have a job in the first place so you keep on trucking (rational mind).
I believe your intuition is calling you for a reason and asking you to stop and listen so that you can get back on track.
But sometimes it can be really hard to stop and truly listen.
Sound like you?
In this week’s blog post we’ll explore how to recalibrate so you can make career decisions that honour your intuitive side without throwing all rationality out the window.
You can listen here:
Prefer to read? Onward, friend!
When you can honour where your heart is calling you, then you can make sure that you’re making the right decisions, action plan and strategies that will help you align your career to where you really want it to go — not just where you *think* it should go.
It all starts with first getting honest and making contact with our heart wisdom in the first place.
There are 2 ways we stop ourselves from dropping into that wisdom:
I first came across the 2 ways we dissociate from our heart wisdom from my teacher Jenna Ward through her Feminine Embodiment Coaching Certification Program (where I’m now a teaching assistant and loooovvving it!)
Having a framework to understand how I was blocking my heart wisdom and intuition was a game-changer for me and I hope that it serves you too 🙂
There are 2 key ways we squash down our intuition.
Way #1: We armour up
For whatever reason we don’t want to feel. We believe a thicker skin is better for us. We believe feelings are weak or that there’s no time to wallow. This allows us to deflect how we’re really feeling and not even entertain the idea that there’s a feeling, emotion or intuitive hit there in the first place.
Reflection Question: Where in your life do you armour up and avoid really feeling what’s going on?
Way #2: We numb
As Brene Brown says in her book Rising Strong…
“For many of us, the first response is not to lean into the discomfort and feel our way through, but to make it go away. We do that by numbing the pain with whatever provides the quickest relief. We can take the edge off emotional pain…..with alcohol, drugs, food, sex, relationships, money, work, caretaking, gambling, affaris, relgion, chaos, shopping, planning, perfectionsim, constant change, and the Internet.”
She goes on to say that…
“But no matter what we use, we can’t selectively numb emotions – when we numb the dark, we also numb the light.”
And you’ve gotta ask the question “Is that really living?”
Reflection Question: How do you numb out?
Where to from here?
Once you know that you may be dissociating from your heart wisdom by armourly or numbing. And it gomes from the unconscious to conscious you can see it for what it is.
This is already huge!
After this it’s about giving yourself permission to start to feel and listen to those intuitive nudges.
The key is feeling what you’re feeling and trust thating you’re going to flow on trhough to the other side.
Honouring how you’re really feeling will tell you what’s really going on – a tender truth there – that’s calling you to look at and be integrated in whatever next step is for you.
If your intuition is calling you to something and you don’t know what it is or you do know what it is and aren’t able to make a decision on your next steps, I’m opening up spaces for one off potent Career Alignment Sessions.
These sessions are designed to help you make sense of all the things that are going on in your life and map out a tangible heart/head aligned action plan that you can implement one baby step at a time — without doing anything crazy or drastic.
I’m just putting the finishing touches on this but if you want the details now and snag your spot send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org with the subject line “Career Alignment Sessions.” I’ll send over all the deets 🙂
I don’t ever off single sessions like this and will only be offering these for the next few weeks so if you want support, grab your chance!
In the meantime, I’d love to hear from you:
- What was your biggest insight or aha from today’s post?
Leave a comment below 🙂
You’re not alone in this!