We live in a society that places an emphasis on working hard.
Don’t get me wrong. I think it’s important to have a good work ethic, to put in the hours to become masterful at your craft and to finish a job that you promised you’d deliver to a client on time…
I do believe there can be a shadow side to working hard and if you’re not careful it could steer you right off track…
Watch this week’s video to find out the telltale signs that you’re working hard for the wrong reasons.
Short on time? Read on for the transcript.
Are you working really hard in your career?
Putting in the midnight oil?
Being the first one in the office the last one to leave.
Whilst you’re creating all this amazing success you’re not feeling really happy?
If so this week’s episode is for you.
I’m speaking to those women who are…
The worker bees.
The ones who work really hard.
The ones who put in the effort are committed, dedicated and showing up YET feeling burnt out, exhausted and really down at the end of the day.
I’m really passionate about this topic because this is something that I tend to do.
This is something that has been my operating system for a really long time.
When I was working in corporate in each of my jobs I did this…
I worked really hard and found myself creating really amazing things for myself. You know the promotions and the job titles the salary etc. But I wasn’t feeling very fulfilled on the inside wasn’t feeling very happy.
I look back on that time now I realise that the working hard was actually a tool to numb myself from really feeling and expressing some of those feelings that I knew within my heart.
I was working hard so I didn’t have to feel the uncomfortable feelings of anxiety, stress, sadness, confusion, doubt.
I was armoring up against them so I didn’t have to feel them so much (or at all even).
It was so easy to fall into that old familiar routine of working hard to achieve “success” as a way to numb down what my heart was trying to guide me to, to what my heart was telling me was the right next step.
But when I discovered this work that I’m doing in terms of coaching (and it’s continually evolving since I first started four years ago) I created that same thing for myself.
I continued to work hard.
I continued to armour myself so that I wouldn’t have to feel those feelings which were uncomfortable when I felt things weren’t aligned.
My mind would say that these feelings were setting me off track and taking me a step back when really they were guiding me to aligning back to my highest path on purpose and what I’m really here to do…
If you’re listening to this and you resonate with this and you know that you’re working hard and you’re achieving success. But you know inside there’s something there’s calling you that is igniting something new and exciting you but you’re just squashing it down….
I invite you to actually give yourself permission to slow down.
The thing with our society and our culture is we believe that working hard, putting in lots of hours at the office and burning the midnight oil is something to wear as a badge of honor (particularly in Hong Kong).
Working in corporate working long hours is something that people will ask about. “What are you doing here on a Saturday or Sunday? Woah you’re working so hard” my colleagues would say to each other.
The truth many other countries experience this too (the US, UK and parts of Australia).
If you’re listening to this you’re working really hard and it isn’t fulfilling you and you are thinking to yourself…
“Yeah I’m numbing out. I’m armouring up against these feelings. I don’t want to feel what’s really going on because it’s scaring me. If I acknowledge them and I admit them then I can’t go back and I gotta do something about them.”
I frickin hear you.
It’s not easy listening to your heart and actually giving those feelings and those emotions some air space can be so uncomfortable.
Because once you acknowledge them you have to do something about them. You can’t stick your head in the sand anymore.
What I’m saying this week is that you don’t have to quit your job, you don’t have to start a business, you don’t have to go and become an author and do whatever it is that your heart’s calling you to do.
What am I proposing instead?
Just listen and give yourself a moment to take a bit of space, hear what’s really going on. And from there take your next step.
So where to from here?
Your tangible homework this week is to take five minutes out during this week by yourself and invite you to open up a journal or a fresh piece of paper and write down everything absolutely everything that is on your heart, on your mind around where you’re going and what you’re doing. Give yourself permission to open up honestly about where you going.
If you’re stuck, please refer to last week’s blog post in the video which will here guide you on how to journal and how to start to build this dialogue with your heart and allow yourself the airspace to connect with the real you.
I’ll tell you when you are able to do this. It’s the most rewarding journey you will ever take. Yes it’s a challenge to look at your issues, look at your challenges, look at your problems.
When you can identify what’s really going on it’s such an empowering experience and you can then go out and create the life that you love.
So for me this pattern was something that I had in corporate and it continued with me into my business and as I’ve learned to really listen to my heart and give that some airspace and evolve with it. Life has become a lot easier. I’m doing more of the work I really love. It’s becoming more joyful and finding more flow and that’s what I really want for you.
So that’s that for this week. Here’s your recap:
Five minutes to journal. Give yourself permission to stop the armouring stop the numbing and start listening to what your heart is telling you.
Have a beautiful week!