Recently I’ve been approached by women questioning and asking…
How do I figure out my career?
I want to do something meaningful but how do I do it?
I’m torn between being with my kids vs. working?
In this week’s video, I talk about purpose, work + career and the two sides of the equation to consider when it comes to re-aligning your ladder against the right wall.
Watch this week’s video on the two crucial sides of the equation to unlocking your purpose + career direction.
Not got time to watch the video? Read on for the transcript.
Are you asking yourself the questions of:
Where am I going with my life?
Am I in the right career?
How can I do something more meaningful?
If so you’re in the right place.
I’m sure bonbons and I have been supporting women to figure out who they are, the work they’re meant to do in the world. Ever since I started my coaching practice and this topic and these women who I work with I hold very dear to my heart because this has been a personal journey of my own. So if you’re asking yourself the question of
How my gosh what am I doing with my life.
What am I here to contribute?
How can I really make a difference?
I really want to share this quote which may inspire and help you. And this quote is by David biscuit and it goes like this.
“The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The work of life is to develop it and the meaning of life is to give your gift away.”
And I love this quote because it is very much in alignment with my philosophy that we all have our unique gifts and we all have something to share with the world.
You don’t have to be a genius you don’t have to be the best but you can do you. And so this really brings to mind the two aspects of your purpose and the work you’re here to do.
So the two aspects are firstly the masculine energy which is all about the doing right. And this is where we can typically focus in society.
What are you going to do to get that career? How can you get that job at that company. How can you find the team and the culture where you’re going to excel. It’s all about the doing the other side of the equation which we don’t often consider is the more feminine energy of your being. It’s not just what you do. It’s actually coming into contact with the real you first before you go into the doing.
And I’m a big believer in that you know finding the the coal feeling the feminine depth and who you are before you take action.
So in society we can be so quick to jump into the doing to jump into action without really questioning what the action is all about. And it’s really interesting in my work with clients particularly when I do more of the feminine body men approach and we drop into the body the deep truth of the core of what we need to work with comes up.
You know sometimes a client will present the fact that they are in a stressful job and like the bosses really challenge and then we drop into the body the fact that motherhood is a priority. All that this woman wants to explore who she is that comes up as a priority is the core issue where to look at. But what happens is when we stay in the masculine doing we can stay in the surface level stress and the surface level issues which are coming to the fore.
There’s nothing wrong with that but if you want to break out of this cycle and this trap of waiting until you found the perfect career all the perfect business idea or you know to start that family in order to feel purposeful and like you’re making a contribution then it’s kind of backward because you’re always going to be looking outside for the validation that you’re enough inside.
And the truth is when it comes to pursuing your purpose and you know coming into your gift you’ve got to come into yourself first.
Who are you really what really lights you up. What is the energy. Who are you being when you are all of your true self. Because from that place you can find the right actions the right opportunities will unfold. And your path and you have your North Star.
You have your guide post that’s always going to be taking you in the right direction because it’s not coming from outside it’s coming from within.
So in next week’s video I’m going to be talking more about how do you figure out this gift. How do you figure out this woman that you are so that you can step into that first before getting into the strategy and the doing.
One caveat you might be thinking as I’m talking that this is all a little bit self-indulgent that we haven’t got time to be figuring out who we are and unpacking everything you know focusing on ourselves before we help others and work on some pretty important causes and some big topics that need to be addressed in society right now. And I hate you. I’m not saying you have to spend 10 years looking at who you are uncovering old wounds like revealing you know trauma. I’m not saying that what I am saying is it.
Take the time to allow yourself to be you.
And from that space you will have more energy more conviction more assurance that you are working on the right causes and spending your energy where you are when needed. And number two what you really want to go. So I am sending you so much love.
And before you go I would love to hear from you. What do you think about this definition of purpose. Where do you sit. Are you more of a doer and strategize. Or are you more of the feeling type exploring who you are.
I’d love to know where you sit on that scale sending you so much love and look out for that video. Next week.
P.S. I’d love your advice and opinions on what topics you’re most interested in so that I can better support you on your unique journey. You can share your thoughts and advice for me OVER HERE.