When I was in corporate I thought that there was something wrong with me.
On the surface I didn’t have anything to complain about. I had a good job with a reputable company, a good salary, the ability to travel business class to exotic locations around Asia, a great partner, family and friends, my health, an apartment in Soho within walking distance to work….
I’d ticked a lot of boxes.
I should have been happy.
But the truth was I wasn’t living my life. I was going after the goals I thought would make me happy.
My work whilst exciting at first wasn’t fulfilling on a deeper soul level.
There was an inner voice that kept saying to me…
……Do something else
……Work hard towards something you actually care about
But I ignored that voice because I was completely clueless about how where to start. I also felt a deep level of guilt for having a first world problem. So many people didn’t have jobs and I was one of the lucky few to land a dream job post GFC.
So I squashed that inner voice and inner angst and told myself to harden up and be more grateful.
That didn’t exactly work out and I eventually hit a breaking point and quit to naively follow a dream on a whim.
Fast forward to today, through my coaching I’ve been able to meet other women who were just like I was. Feeling the same way and now making that transition from corporate to pursuing their calling and business with more structure and strategy.
We can often feel so alone, negative and plain bad for not knowing where we’re going next.
But the truth is there are many of us out there who aren’t happy with our careers. We aren’t the only ones.
If you’re not happy in your career but completely unsure on what to do next, I want to share with you the 3 things I know for sure about pursuing a calling, mission, purpose so that you can be reassured that you aren’t alone and take the right action steps to move forward.
You aren’t behind.
You aren’t a loser.
You aren’t somebody who hasn’t got things figured out.
The truth is: You’re exactly where you’re meant to be.
- You already having everything you need to get started on your next step
When I was in corporate I thought I wanted to start my own natural and organic skincare business because I had a childhood dream of being Anita Roddick (Founder of the Body Shop).
I too, wanted to have an ethical and sustainable business.
My logical brain said to get more education, as I had no idea how to start a business like this.
“I need to know more” I thought to myself.
So I enrolled in a cosmetic science diploma to learn more about the chemistry behind personal care products.
In hindsight it wasn’t the right move. I was looking for external validation for my business idea through studying and I didn’t do what was really needed to just test out my idea and see if it was something that I really wanted to do.
I want you to put a hold on any huge investments that you’re thinking about making.
For a lot of women there can be a rush to get that degree, that piece of paper, that external validation that you have permission to go and do something or be a certain someone.
I’m telling you, you’ve already got what you need.
If it’s your passion and you have a burning desire to learn something new, by all means it could be the perfect option for you but what I’m saying is that you are enough the way you are right now and you can take a step forward without having to look for external validation for your idea.
- Your reality is kinder than your story
The practical reality of what’s really needed to make your dream career or business happen is probably simpler than the crazy-making of what’s going on in your head.
As women we’re good at catastrophizing and seeing the worst-case scenario – freaking out and jumping to negative conclusions.
Whilst things can happen, I want you to trust that you are smart, flexible and resilient. You can pivot and change in your approach to looking for your meaningful career.
The crazy making and fear isn’t serving you. It’s when you get stuck on that fear that you don’t moving forward.
Don’t let the fear and drama stop you from taking the all-important action to move forward through the fear.
- You already know what you want to do
Controversial I know….
Some of you may be thinking that you don’t.
- I have no idea what my passion is
- I have no idea what my calling is
- I don’t know what my business idea could be
Whilst that might be true, I challenge you to ask yourself again:
If you could do anything that you wanted for work, without worrying about time, energy or resources, what is it that you would do?
Your intuition will guide you on the answer and that’s the thread that you need to pull on to get to your personal mission and calling.
When I asked myself this question 6 years ago, I thought I wanted to own a natural and organic skincare business. Whilst that wasn’t the right answer, there were themes in this business idea that still apply to my current one.
You have more of an inkling, insight and intuition into what it is that you’re supposed to do than you give yourself credit for.
When you go deeper it’ll lead you to the core of what lights you up.
Those are the 3 things I know for sure.
I hope these lessons have given you some comfort and assurance to move forward with your big bold career transition in 2016.
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In essence: You can do whatever it is that you want to do and don’t need anyone else’s permission.
There is no one in the world that can do what you do, the way that you do it.
In the comments below, let me know:
Which lesson or thing I know for sure lands most true for you?
What are you going to take action on?
P.S. I’d love to speak to you so that I can understand what you really, really want in your career and what’s stopping you from going after it. Why? So that I can better plan how I can serve you this year.
I’d love to get on the phone with you to ask you some questions (20-30 minutes) and as a thank you give you 15 minutes of laser coaching on the single biggest issue you’re personally struggling right now.
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Thank you in advance for your help. I can’t wait to speak to you!