Back to school fever is in the air and the Barnes household is going back to a regular routine next week.
With the impending school run, after-school activities and a flurry of activity next week I’ve been taking some time out this week to check in.
Checking in to make sure I’m not over-committing, over scheduling and getting caught in the hamster wheel of “doing.”
Do you ever find that you get stuck in the motions?
Working through the daily tasks and to-do’s but not really engaging or even stopping to take a breath?
If so you’re not alone…
This theme is also coming up for my clients too….
Three times this week I heard the phrase “I feel like I haven’t even taken a breath….”
The truth is we can get so caught up in the “doing” of life that we don’t give ourselves the opportunity to exhale and just chill out a little.
And that’s not a way to live!
If you find yourself holding your breath, paddling through your to-do list and want to lighten the load on your shoulders come on over to watch this week’s video blog where I share the fastest way to re-group, re-center and re-align.
Watch this week’s video to find out.
Short on time? Read on for the transcript.
Have you had a chance to have a break over the holiday period?
Have you been go-go-going the whole way through and desperate for a moment to just stop and breathe?
If so this week’s episode is for you.
I find that common themes come up with the clients I work with and quite often similar things happen at the same time.
This week one of the things that has been coming up is this feeling of not being able to take a breath…
Being so busy caught in the “doing” without having the opportunity to exhale.
Having to wait for a future period in time before being able to exhale and live a little?
And that’s not a way to live!
Can you relate?
If you look at how we’re designed biologically, we are meant to take a breath. Inhale. Exhale.
In nature, the waves a wave crashes on the shore and then another one goes back into the ocean.
Life is a constant ebb and flow. Giving and receiving. That’s what maintains harmony and “balance”
So I really want to talk this week about how you can reconnect to the real reason that you’re getting out of bed in the morning
I want to talk about the real reason that your busting gut at work or putting in the extra hours or trying to build a side hustle on the side.
Because what can happen is we can get very caught doing the action taking or on the flip side the procrastinating. Wherever you sit on that spectrum of “doing” – doing lots or procrastinating is welcome. And side note: taking action and doing is a beautiful thing and we need it.
If we’re constantly in the doing and we’re not stopping to reflect on the whole reason why we’re doing it then we can wake up months, days, years later saying….
“What the hell did I work so hard for?
What was I doing?
Where did all those years go?”
So this week I invite you to come back and connect to why you’re doing what you’re doing.
When you’re connecting to your “why” I find that people fall into one of two camps.
Some people focus on the reason that they need to work so that they can earn a steady paycheck and need to be able to provide their family.
Some people focus on building a business because they want to help people and do something more meaningful.
And these are both beautiful reasons to keep you going.
I’m actually a big believer in looking at both of them.
One is a “selfish” why.
It’s more about you. By the way being selfish is not a bad thing (it’s important to look after yourself)
The other is about others.
And this distinction is one of the things I learned from one of my teachers Marisa Murgatroyd.
When I learned this it really hit home for me and it’s something I’ve been using in my own clients because I think it’s really important to look at both sides of the equation.
Going back to what I was saying before you need to take a breath. You need to exhale the way a wave goes back into the ocean after it crashes on the shore.
There is this art “balance” and of receiving and giving.
Now it’s your turn!
Take a look at your life right now and ask yourself:
- Selfishly why are you doing things that you’re doing?
- Why are you in the job you’re in? Why are you perhaps starting a business? Why do you want to start a business or whatever it is with your work and your career.
- Why is that important to you?
And for the mothers out there who aren’t “working”…
Why is staying at home and being with the kids important to you?
You don’t have to have a job to be able to do this exercise.
If you look at those two reasons and those two sides of scale and they light you up and excite you….then you’ve got your juice and can start look at your daily activities and making sure they’re aligned?
If they don’t that’s cool too….no judgment, what a beautiful opportunity to realign back to your why.
Let me know how you go…
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below:
- What is your selfish why?
- What is your altruistic?
- Are you aligned?
I can’t wait to hear from you. Leave a comment for me below.
In the meantime have a beautiful week.