I remember my intuition telling me to get out of my corporate job long before I had the courage to summon the nerve to quit.
Somewhere deep down, I just knew that I was in the wrong place doing the wrong thing.
The thought of quitting on a whim was too daunting, so I pushed that feeling to the side and hoped it would magically go away.
It didn’t. It got worse. Until I had my wake-up call – my career crisis moment – and had to quit.
The thing is, the job itself wasn’t bad.
There were two factors that were causing my misery!
Factor #1: My attitude and approach was one of fear and lack
Factor #2: I genuinely wasn’t in the right environment that aligned with my strengths, values and purpose
If you’re contemplating quitting your job and are on the fence about what to do, then here are some questions to help you get to your answer.
Just so you know, I quit my job with only a vague notion of a business idea. I did not have a detailed plan for how it was going to happen. I let it get so bad in my job that I just had to quit.
I want you to avoid the pain I went through so I’m sharing my lessons learned and the process I wish I had followed to map out my next move.
Whatever you decide as a result of this process, trust it.
Let’s dive in.
Phase 1: Your attitude and approach
I went into my career with very low self-esteem and confidence. Whilst it didn’t always appear that way on the outside, I was constantly second-guessing and underestimating myself.
Because of this, I was a people pleaser and said yes to more work even though I was struggling. I didn’t put up my hand for help and ultimately I got in my own way.
There’s a difference between not being in the right job (which we’ll cover in Phase 2) and not having the confidence to step into the role and opportunity that you’ve been given.
So, how do you know the difference?
Start by asking yourself:
Question 1: Are you clear on what you want from your career and what your boundaries are with your employer?
It’s your job to figure out what you want from your career. Yes, you can have a plan or structure in place from your organisation but ultimately you’re the one in control. You are in the driver’s seat. Get clear on your intention for your job and career and see if your existing role or company is the right fit. If not, figure out what you need to do to change things up.
Setting boundaries is equally as important. Your company will take as much from you as you let it. It’s up to you to leave the office on time, manage your workload, and push back where needed.
Fundamentally, can you achieve your mission and purpose in your existing career and are you setting yourself up to do this?
Question 2: Are you holding yourself back from excelling in your role? Is there anything more you can do to put yourself into the game?
Working in an organisation is a skill. You’ve got to network, collaborate and be smart about your visibility to key players.
In order to get the opportunities to become a leader, you’ve got to be proactive about being seen. This can make a lot of women uncomfortable – we just want to be worker bees and not deal with corporate politics.
BUT let’s reframe it this way. I’m guessing that you would be a great leader. You’re conscientious, compassionate and have a heart. It’s your responsibility to get into a leadership seat so that you can bring about some meaningful change in the organisation.
It’s time to own it!
What else can you do to put yourself into the leadership ladder?
Question 3: Is there anything you can do to take back control in your job so that you find your sense of meaning and purpose?
Perhaps you could put your hand up to lead an exciting project, hire an assistant, or delegate a project to someone else.
Get creative and ask yourself if there are things that you can ask for to make things better?
If you asked yourself the questions in Phase 1 and feel like the problems run at a deeper level then you’re at phase 2.
Let’s dive in:
Phase 2: Are you in the right environment that is aligned to your strengths, values and purpose?
OK, so you’re not happy. There’s not much more that’s within your control to make your job better. You’re fundamentally in the wrong place.
It’s time to follow Oprah’s advice and start to figure out how you can get back on track by bringing meaning and fulfillment back to your career.
Step #1: Get still
Step #2: Ask yourself “How do I turn this around?” and “What is the next right move?”
Step #3: Take a little action and move forward step-by-step
If you want to read more about each step then go HERE .
You have a choice.
Option #1: Quit on the spot and then figure things out
Option #2: Figure out what you want to do on the side and come up with a transition plan
Option #3: Stay and suck it up
Which feels right to you?
Ask your Chief Soul Officer aka your inner mentor and get your answer.
From there, you’ll know what the next right move is for you.
You’ve got this. Remember, there’s no such thing as failure. This whole experience is happening to help you course correct and move in the right direction.
P.S. If you’re craving some support to figure out the passions, values and strengths that will support you to launch your purpose driven career or business then check out the Brilliant You Inc. home study program over HERE. It’s the perfect foundation program to start exploring your unique brilliance and how to incorporate it into a career or business that you love.