Life is full of transitions.
Starting a new job. Getting married. Having children. Starting a business.
Each new milestone in life can be super un-nerving and bring up a lot of fear.
How do you deal with these changes?
When I quit my job back in 2011, I was engaged to be married. I hadn’t changed my name (I was Siobhan O’Brien).I had no kids. There was no business to speak of.
All I knew when I said goodbye to the corporate world was that I wanted to do something more meaningful with my life.
Starting a business was my vehicle to finding freedom, expressing myself and doing work that really lit me up where I could work with people I could really enjoy working with.
Whilst it felt exhilarating to quit the reality wasn’t so smooth.
I was at a loss and found myself slap bang in the middle of an identity crisis.
Leaving behind the world I knew felt like I was leaving behind my identity that I had spent so many years creating.
I’d done pretty well I my career and was proud of what I had achieved and the “reputation” I had built up.
By leaving I felt like I was walking away and leaving that all on the table.
My identity crisis taught me an important lesson:
We are more than our job titles and CV.
Life is not all about your achievements and accomplishments. Whilst those are factors of a whole life what really matters is who you are as a person, how you show up and who you are on a day-to-day basis.
People often say that at your funeral that people don’t talk about your career so much as the contribution and type of person that you were and how you made people feel.
If you’re going through a crisis and not sure about who you are because of some big life change, I want you to know that it’s perfectly OK.
You are more than your title.
You are more than your maiden name.
You are more than how other people identify and associate with you.
At your heart and core you are you and no one can take that away from you.
Even if you change industries, change titles, get married, become a mum, you are still the same person at your core.
People may fall away as you move through a transition but that’s perfectly OK because when you’re living a life on purpose going for what matters to you then your true friends and loved ones will stick with you.
The people who fall away allow space for people to come in. People who “get” you and support you as you are.
Remember you are you are and no one can take that away from you as you go through life’s transitions.
Have the courage to be yourself, live your message doing what you love and create a life that is meaningful and important to you.
At the end of the day you have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and be proud of who you are.
I’d love to hear from you:
- Are you going through an identity crisis?
- What’s going on for you?
- What are you scared about?
Leave a comment I’d love to know.
P.S. I’ve got just one more space in my Beyond The Ladder Experience which is designed to help you explore your life beyond corporate. It’s the last chance to work with me privately 1:1 before I go away on maternity leave. If you’re interested, you can read more about the program HERE.