Jim Rohn’s famously said that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
Can you think of the five people you spend the most time with right now?
When I was working in my corporate job, I spent most of my days at the office and so by default my five people were all colleagues.
I never felt like I really belonged in the corporate environment even though I was friends with my incredibly smart, genuine and supportive colleagues.
Deep down I desperately yearned to explore a life and career of self-development and entrepreneurship. These were the real topics that lit me up.
Trouble was, I didn’t know anyone in that field. Nor did I have any role models to aspire to other than the big names like Oprah Winfrey and Richard Branson. Both of them seemed so intimidating and unattainable to an aspiring wannabe entrepreneur like me.
There was no-one within my circle doing what I wanted to do i.e. quit my corporate career and start my own business. So I sat with the nagging feeling for months and months.
I tried to figure it out on my own and as a result spent a long time spinning my wheels.
In hindsight I wish that I hadn’t been so stubborn and naïve to think that I could figure it out on my own.
Now I’m on the other side of leaping across the unknown abyss of corporate to entrepreneurship I want to share with you the 3 biggest lessons I’ve learned about why people need people when making a change.
- You stretch yourself and see how much more is possible for you
Studies have shown that when grasshoppers are put in to a jar, they hop high, hitting their heads on the jar-top. After a while they jump just the right height to avoid hitting their heads. If the jar lid is removed, they still jump low to avoid hitting their heads on the non-existant jar top.
The same logic applies to humans too.
If you’ve been holding yourself back for a long period of time and limiting what’s possible for you, it can be hard to see beyond your current circumstances.
That’s why it’s important to surround yourself and be supported by people who are achieving what you want.
My coach and mentor show me what’s possible. They show me where I’m limiting myself without even knowing it.
The communities that I am a part blow me away. There are so many people achieving incredible things in very short periods of time.
Seeing them accomplish what I want helps me see that it’s possible for me too and it doesn’t have to be quite so hard or time consuming.
- You stay in a positive mindset
We are human and will inevitably have moments of fear and doubt. When you’re in a community of supportive and uplifting people, it’s easy to get out of the funk more quickly.
Rather than stew in worry you have a support network to get you out of a negative mindset and into a positive one.
It’s important because you can then acknowledge where you’re at and move forward in the face of whatever is dragging you down.
Just knowing that you’re supported with like-minded friends makes the journey so much sweeter.
- You save time and money
When I was working in corporate I thought I could figure out my next step by myself.
I didn’t want to spend money on getting help. I’d been taught to save my money for a rainy day. It didn’t dawn on me that it was in fact my rainy day because I was so miserable in my job.
Plus I thought that I should know myself best and what would make me happy.
I was so wrong.
I pursued the wrong business idea. Didn’t do the deeper inner work to assess what was going to make me happy. And spun my wheels for 2 years in a course I didn’t need, business opportunities that weren’t right for me and time away from my son.
By getting support from the right experts I would have been able to start on the right path right out of the gates and short-cut the path to success.
Now I’m curious to hear from you. Leave a comment and let me know:
- Who are the five people you spend the most time with?
- What support do you really need to take your career to the next level?
- What’s holding you back from getting it?
Have a lovely weekend,