I remember speaking to my coach a few short years ago telling her…
“I love coaching but there are so many other coaches out there”
“Why would anyone want to work with me?”
Whilst deep in my bones I’d found something that energized and excited me (like never before), I didn’t trust that I could pursue my path because of competition. It felt like there were millions of other people out there like me and that I would be setting myself up for failure.
My heart was telling me I was on the right path but my head was telling me the practical reasons why I couldn’t make it work. It was a classic case of should I follow my head or heart?
So my coach patiently smiled and we got to work and identified what was different about me.
Seeing the cold hard facts in front of me for the first time. I could see that I did have value to add. I was different – and that was a good thing.
Sure I may not have had decades of coaching experience like some of my idols BUT I had a multitude of other skills and natural abilities I had been using all my life without even realizing it.
Growing up we are taught to:
- be humble
- downplay our strengths
- lower our voices and opinions
- blend in
- follow the rules
- play it safe
It sometimes takes a wake-up call to force us to evaluate what kind of life and career we’re living so that we can see that we’re not happy or fulfilled.
Because of how we’re taught to view the world we’re very much aware of competition. There’s a lot of fear.
And that stops us from following what we’re meant to do and from pursuing meaningful careers that we love.
If you’re looking at making a career change but worried about the competition or other people already doing it better than (you think) you can do yourself, I’m inviting you to re-look at competition another way so that you can have the courage to go after your meaningful career.
So what if there are a million other graphic designers out there?
Who cares if you’re looking to do something that doesn’t make sense in your head but lights you up like never before?
There is no one in the world who can do what you do, the way that you do it.
I mean it.
Even if you want to be a graphic designer and there are a million of graphic designers out there. It doesn’t matter. You do things different.
You are unique.
You have a unique perspective.
You have a unique eye.
You have a unique lense through which you view the world.
You have a unique personal style (even if you’re not aware of it!)
Your uniqueness will attract different people and clients to you.
We all have a different “vibe”“thing” or “je-ne-sais-quoi” that draws certain people to us.
You’re not going to be for everyone and that’s perfectly OK.
My clients come to me saying that they want to do something but that somebody else doing it in a style they like and are attracted to.
“It’s already been “done” before so why do it too?”
The truth is:
“Who cares if it’s been done before, it hasn’t been done before by you”
If you look at it another way, you can thank the other person who is doing what it is that you want to do because they are showing you what’s possible.
They’re showing you how you can make a living and be happy in that profession.
You can have what they have to.
It’s about breaking mindset that there’s only so much in the world for everyone and that if we have something then we’re taking something away from someone else.
I don’t believe in that model. The zero-sum game.
I really believe that more is more.
I don’t believe that only a handful of people in the world get to pursue a meaningful career.
There is more than enough to go around.
Different clients are going to resonate with you in a different way.
That’s why getting to know your target audience and the people you want to serve is going to be really important.
But that can come later.
At this stage when you’re considering your options and wanting to make a change
I want you to know that you are unique and that when you have clarity on you’re unique brilliance and the confidence and courage to be loud and proud about who you are that you’re actually going to be able to stand out and have that special something that people are going to resonate with.
You can probably see this in your own life.
Some people are charismatic and energetic and people gravitate towards them like moths to a flame.
Then there are others how apologize for being there, don’t want to intrude and don’t take up the space and they don’t get the time of day. Because you can feel that self-doubt and uncertainty.
My challenge for you this week:
Step into your unique brilliance.
Claim in. Own It. Shine It. Light It. Bright.
Let people know who you are.
We want to see the real you. We want to get to know you.
If you do this before you’ve actually gone out and made that big change your energy will be different, you’ll show up differently, you’ll attract certain people into your life and things will start to flow.
Have the courage to go for it.
If you’re up for it then come along and play with the free challenge that I’ll be running soon. You can check out the details HERE.
Remember, there is no one who can do what you do the way that you do it. And so I invite you to join the challenge.
In the mean time post a comment below:
- What are you thinking about doing in your career
- What’s your unique brilliance (time for some healthy bragging!)
Wishing you a beautiful week.
With love and gratitude,
P.S. Speaking of following your heart, thank you so much for all of your kind words after last week’s interview with Sharon Kim of CanPlan. I know that Sharon’s wake-up call after losing her mum to Cancer touched many of you and that you are as inspired as I am that she’s turned tragedy into a positive. Thank you to those of you who backed her Kickstarter Campaign. I’m happy to say that she has reached her fundraising goal! If you still feel called to support Sharon and her cause, please do go over to make a donation and check out CanPlan in more detail over HERE. Most of us have been touched by someone with Cancer and the more people who are empowered with a tool to support them in their journey to recovery, the better. Please forward this email to any friends, family, colleagues, loved ones who would be interested in CanPlan.
P.P.S. If you don’t want to wait for a serious wake-up call moment to make a change in your career then make sure you sign up for the free challenge I’m running next week to help you unlock your unique brilliance and get those creative juices on what you can do next. Sign up HERE.