I don’t know about you but getting back into a routine and momentum can be a challenge after being on a break.
Technically my kids are still on holidays so there is no normal routine to come back to but I’ll be honest I’ve been struggling with getting back into the groove of things.
Turns out I’m not alone.
This week I’m answering a question from a dear reader who mentioned that even though she’s clear on the purpose of her daily goals, she can’t seem to commit to them fully and take action.
Can you relate?
Maybe you’re looking to get healthy, find a partner, change jobs, start a business…
Whatever important goal you’re procrastinating on….
Come on over to the blog and watch this week’s video to learn the 3 steps to getting behind the daily goals and habits that matter in both your life and career.
Watch this week’s video to find out.
Short on time? Read on for the transcript.
Do you find yourself procrastinating?
Not taking action that you know are really important to you?
This week’s blog post was really inspired by one of the readers Chantelle who mentioned….
She’s clear on what her daily goals are. She know what the purpose behind her goals are. But can’t really connect to them fully and anxiety can take over a lot of the time.
I really really resonate with this.
So Chantelle, you’re not alone.
I’m sure for many of you listening you can relate to this too.
I want you think of a goal that you’ve got in mind.
And then think about how you’re taking action towards it.
Are you procrastinating?
Are you doing the work?
Are you showing up fully?
My guess is there’s something in your life that you’re not fully showing up to.
I put my hand up for this….and at the moment it’s exercise.
I haven’t committed to it fully since I’ve been back from holidays.
The reason why we don’t take action towards our goals is often because we have conflicting thoughts about that particular goal or that daily habit.
Our mind cannot get behind something if we have a conflicting belief around it.
That’s when you can feel like you’ve got the devil on one side and the angel on the other.
One’s telling you “yes you should do it” the other saying “no you shouldn’t.”
Because you’re trying to figure out the next right best path, you lose that window, you don’t take action and you’re back to square 1 and you feel really miserable because you think “I can’t keep up with my goals, what’s wrong with me?”
The truth is everyone suffers from this.
You are not alone.
There is a way around it.
So IF you are not taking action on a goal, it’s typically because you have a conflicting belief around it.
Let me take my example of exercise.
Since I’ve been back I’ve been thinking…
“I’ve gotta get back into this exercise routine and get healthy again”
And I’ve been resisting and procrastinating on it.
In my mind I have a goal of exercise but at the same time I have the thought “it’s really hot outside, it’s really uncomfortable, I’ve got limited time, I want to be getting on with the important things. If I’m not with my kids I want to work on my business.”
Because I’ve got those conflicting beliefs it’s been taking up a lot of energy.
Instead of getting my clothes ready the night before, setting my alarm and going for a run. I’ve been putting it off and procrastinating. Until the next day.
It wastes so much mental energy.
So how do you turn yourself around?
How do you get your head into the space where you can be aligned and fully commit to that goal?
Consciously you can have a look and see what are those thoughts that you have behind that goal of yours?
Are the thoughts valid?
Are you supposed to do that goal?
Maybe that daily habit isn’t something you’re meant to do?
Do you have to suck it up and do some hard stuff so you can get the reward you’re looking for?
Have a look at what those beliefs are.
The power of language and the words you say to yourself is huge.
Even if you don’t feel comfortable with your goals you can say “I’m choosing to do this…”
With my RTT training and the subconscious I used this on myself to get back into exercise.
I literally said “I’m choosing to exercise and my body loves this. My body loves feeling healthy and feeling strong.”
This morning I woke up naturally (without the alarm), my clothes were ready and I went for a run and it felt really really good.
Simply look at those thoughts that you have. Look at them objectively and then choose.
I’m choosing to [fill in the blank with your own personal goal].
Whenever you say the words…
“I have to”
Part of us wants to resist this because we don’t want to be told what to do.
It’s important to consciously talk about your goals as if you are choosing to do them.
“I’m choosing to exercise even though it feels uncomfortable.”
“I’m choosing to meet my friends once a week because it’s important to foster those relationships.”
“I’m choosing to [fill in your goal]”
Talk about your chosen goal and if you are “choosing to” do it. Drop the “shoulds” “musts” and “have to’s”.
Just start to notice how your psyche and energy changes around the goal.
You’ll find that you’ll build momentum.
On a side note…if you do do something and you take action. You MUST reward yourself for it.
This is what’s going to rewire the neural pathways in your brain so that you want to take that action again.
It’s like depositing in the bank. Every little thing you do, builds up trust and you build momentum and turn the resistance around.
For me going for a run, I did an extra long stretch session this morning and it felt really really good.
Come up with whatever reward feels really good to you.
That is how you start to make those unfamiliar daily habits, familiar to your mind.
So those are the 3 steps:
- Consciously choose your goals (after looking at the thoughts you have about that goal and whether it’s truly in your best interests)
- Commit to your decision and take action
- Reward yourself for taking action.
Next thing you know, it just becomes habit.
Now, I want to hear from you:
What goal are you specifically struggling to get moving on?
Leave a comment below.
If you need help with the conflicting thoughts before you get to choose your goals, pop your thoughts below, I’d love to help you.
In the meantime, have a beautiful week!